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recovering from pied

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by NU-LIFE, Jan 17, 2015.

  1. NU-LIFE

    NU-LIFE Fapstronaut

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    I wanted to put this thread here instead of in my journal, so that I can get some people's input on recovering from pied.

    I myself suffer from pied. It sucks. No, it really sucks. Like nothing else in this world. This addiction and pied has leeched the confidence out of my body. When I first got here I was afraid to admit it. Ashamed, but as my recovery moves on I'm not ashamed any more. I've embraced this as being my biggest weakness and now have a burning desire to beat it!

    Anyway, what I was wondering is, what sets the recovery back? Obviously looking at porn fires up pathways that your trying to kill, but what about the urges. Like when you think about fapping. I'm doing very well, but I'd be lying if I said I never had an urge. I Fapped one day out of the last 32, but today I had a fairly strong urge. Gone and all settled down now, but does this fire up those pathways? Is this setting my recovery back? Will the strong urges eventually go away so I can healthily rewire my brain one day? I've researched so much, but still some unanswered questions.

    Some thoughts on the subject would be greatly appreciated,

    Thanks
     
  2. crushurcravings

    crushurcravings Fapstronaut

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    I've been thinking about the same thing myself lately. The last 3-4 days have been rather difficult for me. Personally I would imagine that any porn induced fantasy will slow down your recovery slightly. However, as long as you don't act on them you should be ok.

    And yes, the strong urges will eventually subside. They usually come in waves triggered by something throughout your day to light up your addicted neuropathways. The chaser effect can persist up to 72 hours post relapse (I believe), and I'd imagine an urge works similarly and in the same type of time span.
     
  3. Longtime27

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    Hi Nu-Life - I am in the same predicament. The confidence is mostly gone, but as with a lot of things in life, I guess you have to be positive and have faith that things can restore. I currently go for days without so much as a twitch, and my libido has all but disappear - sadly that doesn't mean that urges disappear.

    The aim is to try and find motivation to fill your time with other things in the hope that you don't think too hard about the challenge, any triggers, or the PIED. I think the more time that you allow to pass, the more the urges will fade. The more activities/interests/hobbies you try to engage in, the sooner the pathways will fade.

    I think that there will be times were the urges flare up; for example I had a fairly kinky dream last night and it lasted with me throughout the day. But as above, you just need to give it enough time and think about other things if possible.

    Fingers crossed, and good luck mate. I feel your anguish as PIED is bollocks!
     
  4. ywt

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    I wanted to chime in since I'm recovering from ED myself. Per my therapist some of it is anxiety driven but it's also partially porn induced as well.

    I guess I had the "benefit" that the PI portion of my ailment was the smaller cause. I'd been averaging 2-3 PMOs per week plus whatever sex I'd been having. The problem seemed to be that every so often I'd have a day where I was home alone and I'd binge, and during the binge, the more times I fapped the tighter my grip became. Eventually I'd done that enough that there wasn't a prayer in the world that any vagina could grip me as tight as my hand. Of course the result was my being erect up until insertion and then I'd shrink back down.

    So, over the last several months I cut back on, and am now trying to totally abstain from PMO. I'm doing better at the MO part than the P, and I still edge every so often, but progress is still progress. I have to say though, that the difference has been amazing, and while I know that helping calm down my anxiety was a big part of it, NoFap was also crucial.

    I won't say I'm all the way back, and abstaining from MO is something I want/need to keep up regardless so I can continue to build on any gains I've made. So far though, my erections are harder and my penis is more sensitive. The downside being when I do have sex I don't last very long on the first shot, but I'm confident that will improve in time.

    I just wanted to put this out there to let you know things can and do get better. Feel free to PM me if you have any specific questions, I can at least let you in on some of what I've experienced.
     
  5. SemenIsYouth

    SemenIsYouth Fapstronaut

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    There's solution but its challenge

    Yes you can rewire your brain one day completely! But for lifetime? No! As you said urge, you've controlled it today, so will it go forever? No, it's again going to come doubling its intensity and this time you cannot settle it down! Therefore people report continuous ejaculations after long break put you to earlier stage.
    So what, what's the solution? If you want to never again to masturbate in life you have to burn away the lust completely... Not even ashes of it should remain in your mind! And I know its difficultmost, incredibly difficult... But that's the bitter solution...
     

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