Rebooted like 20 days ago, feeling so needy.

I cannot offer much in the way of advice. But your dilemma does highlight that succeeding at the NoFap challenge, will not solve all your problems, especially relationships. They are potentially the best, or possibly the worst, life can offer to us. I hope things work out for you @RedGapper.

 

Well I can tell you for sure that if you relapse you'll feel double the self-esteem,anxiety,confidence issues etc. I assume by being in this site you have some level of belief that NoFap is actually doing good for you. And by failing to do good to you you'll feel worse. Simple.

 

"However, the past few days I felt that all of my confidence disappeared as i desperately needed to talk to girl. I'm constantly wondering if she has lost interest in me, or if she was just toying. I've never been so needy and insecure in my life."

This is a necessary component of building confidence friend. That component is not having confidence. Ive had SO many relationships where ive felt like this. you are not alone. After a while, you will start to develop a sense of what you think you deserve ( self esteem). if you arent getting what you want in a relationship, if she isnt giving you the attention you want, then you say BYE FELICIA, and find someone who will. the problem is, when you dont have the confidence or the esteem to say good bye when something isnt good for you, you stick around and cling. It took me.... all of my relationships up until recently to finally understand this and start applying it. After you get stepped on enough, you will get sick of it and start sticking up for what you really need and want.

Whatever you do, dont fill that needyness with her. if that continues to build, it will get unhealthy real quick. recognize these needy emotions, and get them elsewhere or put that energy into something productive. DO NOT blow up her phone with needy messages. this will surely push her away.

You got this man. This too, shall pass.

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