Really want to masturbate

Hang in there, friend, most people will get the urge to masturbate during their process. I know I have, and in the past I've actually given in, and trust me, it is not worth it. Your brain will try to rationalize excuses but the infinitely tiny moment of pleasure, if it's even pleasurable at all, is not worth the lifetime of reward that comes with not watching porn or masturbating. It's simply not worth it. You'll probably feel like shit seconds afterwards. Don't do it, focus your attention and energy elsewhere. Good luck!

 

you need to read this did you post?

https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...se-read-this-dont-give-up.104473/#post-866640

 

Hi Bill,
Have you clearly defined your goals you want to achieve? Not everyone is in the "no masturbation" camp. Porn addiction is definitely my problem. If you are primarily trying to stop porn addiction and doing zero masturbation is making that difficult, it may be worth revisiting what your goals are. However, I am not trying to steer you off course if that was a clear goal for yourself already.

 

Listen up brother. What you're feeling right now is an intense dose of masculinity from within. You're not used to it, you beat these things out as soon as they show up usually, so the intensity of this one is a bit too much.

Go jogging, lift some weights, have a good conversation with someone. It's just an energy stuck within you that you feel the need to get out. Fapping is the worst, most selfish, most detrimental way to do that. Well besides maybe like, violent crimes haha. Just find a new outlet for it.

 

Well, do keep in mind that it is natural to find attractive women, well... attractive. Even a straight guy who has never PMOed before, which you once were, has that happen. The key is to watch those afterthoughts, don't go some where out of control indulgent and detached from the reality of what you'd actually have to do to bang that girl and get that release.

And of course, what are you really at the gym for? To work out. One thing I have only just recently noticed is how much sex can be a "go to" thought in any moment we aren't strongly focused on something else. So practice really deeply focusing on what you're actually doing. I've been trying it lately, and surprisingly, I actually got approached by a girl when I was reading something and got immersed enough in it that I was not having distracting thoughts about women. A woman approached me and said, "you look so focused, what are you reading? It must be interesting." We talked for awhile.

 

There's this Charles Bukowski quote I keep passing around here:

"Don't try."

Think about what it means.

 

Exactly - that's it.

Totally agree.

Great! The NO PMO journey is not easy but worth the effort.

That's the way it happens. I have to trust that life will always give me in the right moment what I need. I am focusing on what I really want in my life: true happiness.