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Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by NU-LIFE, Nov 29, 2014.

  1. NU-LIFE

    NU-LIFE Fapstronaut

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    Hey everybody. I'm really struggling right now. I can't keep my head up. The girl that I liked left and went back to her piece of shit ex boyfriend. I feel like a low life, loser, worst of the worst. I can't talk to anyone about what I'm going through. I fucking hate myself. I need a change so bad. I don't want to continue in this life. Why!, why!, why! Am I such a fucking loser. This is crazy. I need to change myself so, so bad.
     
  2. beauty

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    You're not a loser. You're 10 steps ahead of the average guy because you don't masturbate to porn. Life isn't all roses and daisies, you're going to run through tough times. Keep your head up, and remember: do not PMO (No matter how well your mind will try and justify it).
     
  3. KrmGrn

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    Anything you want to change, you can. It takes time but you can do it. I've been suicidal in the past, I've felt lost, trapped, all of that. It changes. And you can change yourself.

    Identify those things you want to change in yourself. Be specific. Then make a plan how you can change a little bit every day. A little step every day towards what you want.

    I've been wanting to be free of porn and masturbation for a long time. Finally I'm doing something about it. Every day I stay away is a victory and a small change onwards being the person I want to be.

    You've got supportive people here who will help you through this.
     
  4. Mindlink

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    Im opening a skype support group .... in hard times it`s best to talk to someone :) my id is mindlink2.
     
  5. HudBud

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    You're definitely not a loser, your longest streak is almost 3 times as big as mine(6 days)and I too liked a girl and she just recently ended our relationship together. But when you feel lost just think of how far you have made it with NoFap and keep your streak going. Then the other things in life will come with time
     
  6. OSU32

    OSU32 Guest

    The only incentive to you believing the lies your head is attacking you with is the excuse to stay parked and do nothing. It will take time to become unentangled from her. There is no shortcut for this! But anyone that wishes you 'luck' is blowing smoke up your butt. At some point you will get sick of your head and get up. Are you done with improving? are you done with getting back up? challenge your head and this will eventually start to subside.
     
  7. Razielcreed

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    A Break Up is the Best motivation For Going out and getting another Girlfriend/partner
    -If you think that she's perfect or that she is the one , your wrong man , DUDE THERE ARE 6 BILLION PEOPLE ON EARTH , you will always Find a better person next time
    -the fact that she left you is probably because she is thinking about herself , Do the same , start a Challenge , Go to the Gym , Go out and meet new people , Travel ,
    - I guarentee you won't be thinking about her 3 weeks from now hh :D
    - i know how hard it can be from the beginning but we are human , accept the fact that you broke up as a man , STAND UP SPARTAN , FIGHT AGAIN !
    -everyone needs to pass through these hard times , people who get their life smooth/rich and easy will get 0 Experiences and will be all the time giving up wining and getting angry with anything
    ==> and lastly , think about it , you don't need a person to feel complete , i mean it's fun to have someone arround thinking about him , telling her(i love you) and that kind of stuff , but man think how was your life before you met that person , you only need food/water and Air to survive :DDD , you won't die man don't Give Up !!!
     
    Last edited: Dec 23, 2014
  8. trillmurphy

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    Hey man you are far from a loser. It's her loss. Despite how you felt for you her, you should move on and keep looking. There are plenty of fish in the sea my friend :)
     
  9. Aryan

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    You are in Nofap means that you want to rise above the mediocrity.Do not punish yourself for something that others did to you,May be she did not deserved you.
    "WORK SO HARD AND SO SINCERELY THAT THOSE WHO REJECT YOU DO NOT DEPRESS YOU INSTEAD THEY REPENT THAT THEY REJECTED YOU."
     

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