Really important question, i need your opinions, dying inside

damn i forgot. my memory and brain fog is horrible lol. In that case, do.you fantasize while thinking?

 

Look, just do the best thing for your body and mind.. Do not PMO. Also, you will never know if you are cured until you are woth your significant other. However, if you abstain from PMO you will most like 99.99% be cured by the time you reach the legal age of 18...

 

In my case, social media has only turned into a catalyst for my MO. And often if things I find on social media are not intense/erotic enough I usually end up resorting to Porn wasting minutes and hours of time. We then become more desensitized and crave more intense things. This often causes addicts to crave new things(bizarre fetishes) we never cared about before and wouldn't care about outside of porn. We often think of/define porn as hardcore sex involving naked men and women; however, if you are sensitized to other things like celebrities and pictures of girls you've met at school then it's no different. It's fap material all the same. This may sound crazy, but some people can get off to the strangest things that don't seem sexual at all and have almost nothing to do with sex ie: hentai, tentacle porn, etc. Nevertheless these are legit addictions. This list makes me laugh, but it's also true and ultimately sad. And I'm not saying you're going to be addicted to these things lol, you'll be fine, but you should take NOFAP seriously.

http://tfln.co/35-of-the-weirdest-things-people-masturbate-to/

As always I recommend the Your Brain on Porn Video by Gary Wilson if you haven't already watched/listened to it 100 times:

 

Hi Макето,

I understand your feeling of social inadequacy when you are in a group, because I've experienced the exact same thing!

You know, sitting at home and watching passively, whether it be porn, models on Instagram, or improductive entertainment on YouTube (or playing MMORPG like I personally did), makes you more isolated and doesn't build any social skills.

If you have a lustful way of watching women, it will also be noticeable by others, which will make you look weird in groups.

Your hormones are of course raging and this is normal, but choosing porn as a way to channel and focus this energy is no good idea, since it will keep you unsatisfied, craving for more, and you'll end up not even seeing the point of speaking with real women.

So, I understand that you don't watch porn anymore now and this is definitely good news.

What I'm proposing you right now is to question your moral values, and find out what your REAL self thinks about porn, as a objectifying use (or abuse) of actual people. Would you like to let porn-induced fantasies get in your future loving relationship?

Do you think that the union of man and woman are just the sum of their body parts, plus the pleasure taken (stolen) from each other? Or do you think there can be some higher, purer emotional attachment which adds up to sexuality?

Try to figure that out, because you can't give up porn-induced thoughts without a deep reason, which you consciously identified.

So, keep us updated, please!

PS: Stop thinking you have ED!!! What happened instead is that your way of getting aroused has been disprupted by recreative search for sexual stuff on the Internet — and you are unfortunately not alone!

Cheers,
TTMT

 

Look man, I'm gonna say this as a 33 year old, but I was 16 once too. You're questioning all these things and wondering if something is wrong with you etc. You said in the last 4-5 months you *almost* gave up porn completely but still PM'd 6 or so times. Whether you have some PIED issues or not, may or may not come into play, but you're obviously suspecting/questioning something, and it obviously lead you to this site, so at some point you were questioning porn use/Pied/PMO in general. I'm sure along the way, you did some research, watched "your brain on porn" etc, and it should have set off a light switch in your head that even if you don't have any issues now, PMO can have serious consequences down the road if you keep doing it, as the many people on this forum can attest and provide anecdotal evidence for. So instead of shooting for a 90 day target, why not pledge to remove porn and masturbation from your life? It's like someone who is a smoker but who might conceivably have been ignorant that cigarettes can kill you, fair enough, they didn't know better, but then they learn about the dangers of cigarettes via other people's experiences and anecdotal evidence, and then say "well I still smoke here and there but I'm not addicted, and I can try to quit for 90 days but will I be cured?"

Get PM out of your life, change your habits to refocus that energy toward something else in order to "fill the PMO void". Make a pledge not to make sexual stimulus an overarching concern in your life. You will become less stressed, less anxious, less frustrated and less irritable. You will feel better all around. Believe me I know it's tough do this as a 16 year old kid, I've been there. But if only I knew then what I know now. You don't want to deal with issues until your 33 right? Make a change now, there is no excuse once you're aware. The choice is yours. I promise you if you refocus your life, and do the things I said, you won't even think of Any of this when the time comes that you're with a partner. You will simply perform. You'll be "in the moment" and not a "spectator". You will be glad you made the change

 

No offense but I was saying the same exact things you are 50 days ago. I never would've labeled myself a porn addict compared to some of the other stories I read here. Bottom line is porn definitely had an effect on my mind, or I wouldn't have come here, you know what I mean?

 

Ok. You are fine. You don't have PIED. Quit this forum and get help from a Doctor. This place is for Porn Induced ED. Meaning, there is nothing wrong with us physically 100%. However, porn has rewired our brains so that when we try to have sex it is limp. All other times we can get hard with porn. If you think there is nothing wrong with you because porn is not your problem then you know yourself better than anyone else. I know porn was or caused my problem. I'm 65 days in the reboot process and I can see a lot of changes. You obviously want to not have a problem. Well, it seems you don't have the problem all of us hete have which is PIED.

 

Look, not trying to kick you out.

1. Do you know what is PIED?
2. Do you understand that there is a standard 90 reboot process?
3. If 90 days does not cure you then reasses the situation.. have you seen any improvement? it might take longer depending on many factors.
4. The only way to really be sure is to try to have sex with a partner.

If you understand the above there is hope.

 

A thought would end up draining as much energy as the act itself. This may be PIED but provided you allow your body to recover for some time & reboot, everything should be fine. Since you are only 16, your body would recover quite fast. Try 90 days rebooting & organize your life.

 

in my honest opinion

especially at your young age

all p is bad
looking at models on instagram isnt going to do anything for you and only makes the urges worse

i would reccomend to stopp al P and artificial stimulation and go out and do some sports and hook up with girls

i can tell you from 14 years of p experience its not worht it at all

if i was in your shoes i would quit in a heartbeat and go out and chase the girls

the regrets that i have from so much girls that i could have been or slept with that i fcked up because P addiction is verry verry hard to cope with every day

i would say 50 girls or so that have had an interest in me and i was just not into at for some reason