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Quitting or taking a break from social media.

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by FormerFapaholic, Sep 17, 2017.

  1. FormerFapaholic

    FormerFapaholic Fapstronaut

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    Yeah, I only use messenger to stay in contact with people. But yeah, in relation to embracing being an introvert. Privacy is vastly underrated these days.
     
  2. FormerFapaholic

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    A month into it, and it never occurs to me to log onto social media. Life is so much better without it.
     
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  3. chanteur49

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    I ditched insta a while ago, although I install it once in a while to actually talk to people. I found that everyday, I would spend 15-20 minutes browsing and browsing - and the photos and videos I viewed were completely meaningless most of the time (short sport clips, food clips, vine-like “comedy” clips, among others.) Instagram also contributed to my porn addiction. I see a stimulating photo, escalate to the web, and then take it up a level to porn. So Instagram wasted my time and would make me relapse.
    Then there was also the psychological part of Instagram. Seeing pictures and pictures of social get-togethers made me feel lonely sometimes.

    So deleting Instagram was eventually a no-brainer. What is harder is to avoid other phone-based distractions like games, YouTube, etc...
     
  4. FormerFapaholic

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    This video sums up how addictive social media can be.
     
  5. Scared Human

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    I don't find social media addictive, but it definetly contributes to me feeling like shit. Constantly seeing people living it up, having fun, cool looking girls, etc. and then going back to real life and comparing your life to the "apparent lives" of others, usually breeds feelings of sadness, jealously, hoplesness, and just negativity in general.

    plus there's so much bullshit that gets lodged in your subconscious from that. so it's really just best to live your life and focus on improving it.
     
  6. Ypow

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    Agree. I must use it just because of college.
    Social networks are like living in another world, it s not reality. Good trick will be to make account and to use it for following Motivational pages and only that stuff. But again we need to stand up and go for improving our goals, better than wasting time.
     
  7. getzor

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    Yea we live in a society of competition. It means even in social medias : the big animals eat the lowers by showing off.
    So quit everything that makes you frustrated and bring nothing.
    Respect and live for yourself.
     
  8. batonrouge

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    Facebook destroyed my life. It cost me almost my career, i made a few haters and 2 week suspension from my part time job. Caused me a deep depression phase complete with cigarettes and Jack Daniels. I had crush, that i cant have. I deleted it a year ago. eventually, i got rid of snapchat. and i left with instagram. where i seldom visits.
     
  9. I quit Social Media because they were filled mostly of Stupid, Ignorant people's and I was just like "No", Sometime Social Media(Instagram,Facebook and Twitter) always bother me because I always grab the attention of people's I don't like or care for.
     
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  10. I finally found it telling that the people i really do like or love anyway havent been on social medias. I never have had insta, it occurs to be even worse then FB - even more superficial (and that means something :p ). Its a fake world. I did realize it the first time i met people i added while i didnt knew them in real life. How shall i say? Girls look quite often far better on pics then in reality what? :D
    I hate the ubiquity who nevertheless arent there. of those one actually anyway doesnt care about. It all feels absolutley pointless - since with your real friends you anyway do have contact. Though it can be negative, since it lowers the excitement to see someone again when you did follow the news anyway daily. I like it when things are new and surprising: in FB everything is immediatley presented about which you would learn "normally" days, weeks or even months later, if you wouldnt be there.
    And then the stupid "philosophical - political statements". Im happy im not there anymore...
     
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  11. FormerFapaholic

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    Wow! TWO months into being off social media. I've gained a lot more clarity from doing so.
     
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  12. I haven't quit Facebook, but I found out that I was using too much time on it. I was scrolling everyday like crazy searching for new stuff to look at. It was like an addiction. And also I kinda felt triggered by it. So I decided to take a long break from it. Now I only using messenger for when people are in need of me, and I sometimes log on to Facebook to look at the invites and if someone has tried to contact me there. But other than that I don't scroll, post or like anything. And even though one month ago I was clicking through it like crazy, now I really don't miss it at all. I am gonna be more strict with myself though, let people know I am not so much on Facebook but that I am available through messenger. So that I don't have to logon. Works perfectly now though. Today I also deleted the insta app and twitter app from my telephone. That was quite liberating. I am still gonna have an account, but like Facebook not gonna use it until I feel more calm and control over this addiction.
     
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  13. FormerFapaholic

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    Nearly three months. Some things have happened. I’ve started taking up voluntary work, will be getting a transfer to work closer to home, going out walking my dog 2 or 3 miles everyday. Been reading books in my spare time as well as going out to coffee shops - which is where I also read my books.
     
  14. FormerFapaholic

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    With Xmas looming, no doubt that people will be showing off how much money they spent. How many presents they got from others and/or for their kids. Then having their ‘one’ under the mistletoe. So glad not to see and not know the bullshit from being off social media. It’s absolute bliss.
     
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  15. fan_of_all_might

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    Hey great thread. I read everyones replies and resonate a lot with them. Objectively we know socia media is designed to keep us plugged in and mindless state where we just consume, feel jealous and occasionally get hits of validation. I won't lie 90% of my searches are of exes, girls I like, friends I'm envious of.

    I think the flip side to social media is that it really does give us access to exposure and a platform like never before in history if you can leverage it properly. For me this is the reason (excuse haha) I keep my social media around. A lot of my business depends on it. But at the same time I feel the cancerous effect it has on my concentration and self worth when I'm using it for novelty and validation. I think in a perfect world I'd stay off Instagram and have an assistant do it. But right now I can't.

    So I need to find a way to create a stone wall for work on the platform and keeping play out of it. This of course is absurdly hard, as I'm sure it has been designed in such way. I'm not so sure how to keep an account for Business activities since the brand is myself so it's even harder to draw the line.

    Ideas I've toyed with are having a totally separate phone and just having that be my social media update phone then put it in a box somewhere. But even then I think it would still be a risk of me binging when I get into a state of ego depletion. I haven't figured it out yet clearly. I'd love to hear from anyone who can balance the two.

    Props to the guys deleting their pages entirely. I really do think that is the right choice if possible.
     
  16. Lt.Potato

    Lt.Potato Fapstronaut

    I deleted the Facebook app on my phone long ago and just recently deleted Snapchat, Instagram, and Twitter as well. I had a bad tendency of checking all of them to see what my ex was doing and it really wasn't a healthy way of getting over that relationship. I still use Facebook on my computer, but I would like so start phasing that out as well. I spend so much time scrolling and doing nothing on these Social Media platforms and I've started to ask myself, whats the point? There are so many other things that I could be doing instead of staring at my cell phone all day. This thread just gave me that extra motivation I needed to stick with my decision to delete social media, thank you!
     
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  18. FormerFapaholic

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    For those who are serious about giving up social media. My recommendation is to read the book, Divorcing Facebook? Really?, by Audrey Wagner.
     
  19. Son of Midgaard

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    Very interesting subject!

    I took my Fb down twice this year before doing it once again today. Also took down all dating sites and tinder today. Already feeling alot more centered, focused and i finally let thins sink in a bit, you know. Not everything on the surface, not always on the lookout, not always hanging out on FB either pursuing some attention or appreciation or awaiting some. I'm kinda of present right now i Would say, well Nofap has a big part of it, for sure but social media really waters down everything i would say from emotions to pursuing your personal goals and also spiritiallysince you never get any peace of mind, ever ever. People say they have FB to keep in touch with friends, but If you never keep in touch anyway how much friendship could you extract?

    i do recognize some advantages to it too, keeping up with social ventures and auctions for instances aswell as easy access to some special interest groups, but i find the advantages without it more appealing.
     
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  20. FormerFapaholic

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    The most active users on social media are practically glued to their smartphones, and live life seeking validation from others because of how many likes they get online. Sadly, that's used as a basis on evaluating their life and self-worth.
     

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