Quit P and now flatline

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by _city_, Jul 12, 2019.

  1. _city_

    _city_ New Fapstronaut

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    I've never had trouble with ED, even with constant and excessive P use, but that's suddenly changed. I'd quit P/M, broke up with my gf of 10 years, and just met a girl I like. Sex seems natural for where I am mentally, but when we tried, I suddenly couldn't perform. I've been PMO free for a week (my best is 21 days) and single for maybe 3-4 weeks. We've tried a few times with similar results. We're still really enjoying each other's company, but I'm obviously not happy about this. I'm not even waking up with morning wood.

    I'd like to sleep with her, but I feel I've lost my sex drive. Is this common with nofap? I don't know if it's leaving this other relationship (that's defined me for the last decade) or a side effect of P addiction. I feel that if I started watching P again, I'd regain my drive, which was always fine in my previous relationship, but I'm also trying to be a better person. I don't know if I want to be a better person that loses out on this girl and can't be in a full relationship though.

    Does anyone, anywhere, have some thoughts to help me process this?
     
  2. Robinthehood

    Robinthehood Fapstronaut

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    Just an idea but could you somehow incorporate some of the things you liked about porn into your relationship with this girl? May work as a jump start then can be phased out over time, or not.

    So I'm guessing your counter isn't accurate....
     
  3. _city_

    _city_ New Fapstronaut

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    That's a good idea, Robinthehood. We're already trying things I like (which are pretty simple), but maybe incorporating more of the "flair" of P will help.
     

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