Quit jerking it and all other habits are out of control.

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by badbanana, Aug 9, 2019.

  1. badbanana

    badbanana Fapstronaut

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    Now that I quit for awhile I've been smoking cigarettes, chewing, drinking way too much coffee, staying up late watching TV, and eating poorly. I'm not sure how to tackle all these other problems now that I quit porn. It feels like if I start working on my other issues I'll go back to porn. I don't have any urges for porn now but I feel like they might come back. Anybody else feel this way?
     
  2. Headspace

    Headspace Fapstronaut

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    I haven't had this with PMO abstinence, but with other stuff, too. Assuming that we use bad habits to fill that empty hole in ourselves, it just seems natural. But of course you will want to avoid it. The standard advice in this context is to not just get rid of your bad habits (at least the ones you consider really bad, the ones you don't really want to live with) but to replace the bad habits them with good habits. Did you start anything new after you quit PMO? Anything you could think of, as in sports, learning an instrument, social activities, ...?
     
  3. badbanana

    badbanana Fapstronaut

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    I would like to start working out but my work schedule is totally unpredictable I can work anywhere from 6 to 18 hours a day. I would need a personal trainer because I've never worked out and would look like a total fool lol. I still play guitar but have lost ambition because it's impossible to start a band in this town because everyone's work schedule is just as unpredictable as mine. I'm not saying I wouldn't try just that my ambition is gone right now and can't seem to get the ball rolling again.
     
  4. Freddiefox

    Freddiefox Fapstronaut

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    Knock them down one at a time, before you know it they will be gone
     
  5. Headspace

    Headspace Fapstronaut

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    Ok, well, may be you will find something nonetheless. A predictable work schedule would be helpful for working out, of course, but unless you want to follow a rigid training plan it's not a necessity. Regarding the personal trainer thing you have to know for yourself (and I really mean that: I just don't know what would be good or necessary in that regard). May be starting a band would be difficult, but you could still play guitar for yourself.

    But first and foremost, you have to want an additional activity such as these by yourself. I really just wanted to make some suggestions.

    Another advice would be to go as @Freddiefox said. In fact, I wanted to say a similar thing before the idea of the 'good habit' popped into my mind.
     

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