Question for Men

I agree on this with @NF4L, I didn't realized it before I now, but urges by them self are triggers. I use to get urges and I planes, that when I get home I will M, I even sometimes look for P material before hand, so when I get home I'll PM. Patterns also are triggers, didn't thought about it before, but now I notice that I sometimes get urges around time I use to would've done it before D-Day; like after work before I go to sleep, or when I go take a shower. So yeah now I see it that urges and patterns could trigger.

 

It's like you're creeping past Smaug, and some coins shift and skitter noisily under your feet. You see the dragon move, and you have to fight to stay rational. You know freezing and perhaps hiding are the course to take and to contemplate carefully a potential escape, but you want to scream and run, or draw Sting and charge the dragon, or just jump out and embrace the flaming death that awaits you.

 

For me being triggered meant I was going into "that mind", and it meant that I had a desire to act on it. In that frame of mind, I might say things to myself like, "I wonder what she ...". I am not going to get crude here, but the deviant mind can come up with all kinds of weird stuff. I knew that I didn't really want to do that with her, it was just a way of FEELING it. As for the desire to act on it, I mean view porn and masturbate. But mostly I wanted make what happens in my head when I did the porn.
That was one of the reasons why I understood that the addiction was an addiction to brain chemicals.
Today I don't let the triggers go anywhere. It is to the point where it is nothing more than a flash that I use techniques on to swallow them up. I am not afraid of them anymore, nor do I judge my progress by whether they are happening or not. I know that when they come, they are part of ME, and I know how to assert my frontal lobe, and not be swayed into taking an action that I now consider abhorrent.

 

It depends on the person, as each person is different. With that said, it depends on your mood, Women who is in front of you, her style and way of dressing, your life's status etc etc. We don't fantasise to everyone we see. It's just sometimes things tend to slip our minds and we feel a good amount of attraction. It is like mind playing games on you etc etc.

As for mind, you can fantasise as much you like, there is no stopping. It's just than as men we also are able to resist it and keep it under control.

But I am still confused, why are you asking this question?