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Question about using ED pills with GF during reboot

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by embracechange, Feb 15, 2017.

  1. embracechange

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    Hello all, just wondering if using ED pills while with my GF to help with my PIED during the reboot process is a good idea? I'm 31 days PMO free and immediately went into a severe flatline on Day 1 with absolutely no libido and was completely lifeless below the belt. Also, had no morning or spontaneous erections. Finally had morning wood and am starting to have sex dreams although no wet dream yet. GF and I have not attempted sex during my reboot, but she really wants to try now. The other day while making out with her I was very aroused and afterwards noticed pre-cum in my underwear. I'm scared though that my PIED will still be a huge problem and was wondering if using the lowest dose of ED pill until my PIED completely clears up will screw up my reboot. Any advice would be greatly appreciate! Thanks in advance!!
     
  2. AnxiousBraval

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    Keep it natural bro. one positive effect it will have if things workout would be that your self confidence would skyrocket. Also the gf would appreciate that your attraction for her is completely natural. good luck
     
  3. MonacledGentleman

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    How is your girlfriend on understanding with this whole PIED thing? Is she anxious and impatient, or is she being supportive and helpful? If the latter, I might suggest telling her you're willing to try (sans meds) but that it might not go well. It sounds like things are picking up and you might be fine, but the pressure of performing isn't going to help you any. If you and she both know that maybe nothing will happen and, worse case scenario, it's just a heavy make out session, then that keeps the pressure off you, and you might be surprised to find everything works fine. I'm personally against meds, because ,how can you possibly build your confidence, knowing you need artificial endeavors in order to perform? Better to figure out a way to master your own mind, even if it takes longer, and know when you're done that it was all you.

    Btw, I'm speaking strictly to the ED portion. I'm only a few days into my reboot, and unqualified to speak to the effects this will have on a possibility of a reset.
     
  4. noviceambition

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    You can try adding more potassium into your diet, exercise more, and add foods that help with increasing blood flow like ginger and cayenne (spicy foods).
     
  5. embracechange

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    Thanks for your response! I've been taking a ton of supplements during my reboot including potassium, but I'll try out the spicy foods too. Thanks again and hope you are doing well in your journey!
     
  6. embracechange

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    Thanks for getting in touch. Unfortunately, she is quite anxious and impatient. Whole thing is quite a nightmare. I'd rather not take the pills and like you said just build back my confidence naturally no matter how long it takes, but we have reached a critical impasse. Anyhow, thanks again for your advice and best of luck on your reboot!
     
  7. embracechange

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    I'd like to keep it natural, but unfortunately we are in a bad place right now. Not sure what the answer is, but thanks for your response. Hope your nofap journey is going well!
     
  8. Mateo89

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    As your name states, you may need to question whether or not this relationship is healthy and benefiting you. I understand the importance of intimacy for a relationship, but if your GF is not supportive of what you are going through, perhaps you should reflect on why your in the relationship. Do what is best for you. You need this time to reboot, and sex is something you may obviously have to sacrifice for the time being. Listen to your body, their is a reason you have no libido. Artificially using drugs to get it up, is only going to harm and disrupt your healing process.

    Communicate your reboot to her. Educate her on it. If it comes to it Break up with her if you have too. Straight up, she either is with you or against you.

    Mateo
     
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  9. MonacledGentleman

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    This is really harsh, and we obviously don't know the particulars of your relationship, but I still have agree with Mateo in principle. I don't know her and don't know you, and it's terribly hard to give what amounts to relationship advice on so little information, but a woman who knows what you're going through and can't support you in it, isn't much of a woman, in my book.
     
  10. embracechange

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    I appreciate your advice and do value your opinion. She dumped me this morning, so problem solved. Thanks again for weighing in.
     
  11. embracechange

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    Thanks for weighing in Mateo. Appreciate you sharing your insight into this. I communicated my reboot to her and laid out my whole problem on Thursday night. Have done the best I could the past few days to educate her. She is a very smart woman and did a lot of research on her own as well. We've only been dating a little over three months, but things were going great until I was struck with what I now know is PIED seemingly out of the blue. Then I did research and discovered NoFap. I'm now on day 34. Anyhow, problem solved. She told me this morning she can't handle it, especially given the relationship is so new, and she dumped me.
     
  12. MonacledGentleman

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    Hey, man. That's still sucks. Even if it sounds like it was for the best, it's never a fun thing to go through. Stay strong. This may be a difficult time, but stick with it, and this will mean something.
     
  13. embracechange

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    Thanks dude. Yeah, it sucks big time. Painful as fuck. But PMO is not an option. Don't ever want to go through the PIED nightmare or the hell that is flatline ever again. Never knew about the dangers of PMO until I started researching ED a month ago. Now that I've been educated it's time to start a new life. I want to see what's on the other side of a full reboot. Thanks again man. Hope you're having a good weekend.
     
  14. GG2002

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    I am so sorry to hear this but it's likely for the best. As a woman who has a partner with this I can tell you that this is very difficult to deal with for her. Early on in a relationship the commitment is not there so it's easier to walk away. You also expect early on to be enjoying amazing chemistry and not having to deal with this. I want to however give you huge props for being honest with her so early on. Most guys are not. My partner struggled and saw doctors and kept saying for 9 months that he had no idea what was causing his issue and that he was not using porn but he knew and was. I would have rather know the truth early on. You will find the right girl. Good luck.
     
  15. embracechange

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    Thank you so much for your kind response and sharing your experience with me. Everything you said rings true. Early on the commitment is not there and you should be enjoying physical chemistry instead of dealing with PIED, flatline and the emotional upheaval that ensues when dealing with these issues. I also really appreciate you giving me kudos for being honest. Right now I'm hurting and in emotional pain from the breakup, but have no desire to PMO in the least after the damage it has caused me physically, mentally and emotionally. I want to live a PMO free existence and I surely never want to go through the withdrawal process or flatline again. 39 days today. I hope to fully recover and one day be with a loving partner and be the best man possible for her. Thanks again and best of luck with your relationship!
     

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