Question About Masturbation with Partners

For example if we were together and teasing eachother with masturbation would that be considered bad? Along with that, what about sexting/masturbation during sexting? Is it any different than masturbation with porn if a partner is communicating with you? I made this account mostly to ask this question because it's driving me nuts! I am pretty good staying away from pornography but I want to have the best sexual experience with my partner possible.