Psychological warfare.

I find it a struggle to contain myself when I'm with someone I hate. Some people who tease me I just can not stand. But when a friend teases me I'm okay with it?? Anyhow I'm very sensitive and take things personally. For a long time I could pretend I was feeling 'Gucci' but I would just go home with my head tilted low and rethink the drama and it would get me so angry. Nowadays I'm less frustrated but i can still be very grudgy. Just like the Grinch u might of done or said something and I would pretend it didn't affect me, but in the meantime I would create more hate, anger resentment etc all those feelings, and I would project it toward s that person. If I couldn't get back at you in a certain way, then I would just think about it at home, solo, in my free-time.
What a waste of time and energy. I think I over react with this story just a little bit. But I'm not going yo deny that it happens. I think we all have to deal with these things and learn how to let things go and not be so serious all the time.

Also the opposite is possible , where you love a person blind ly. This is also bad and gullible behavior, people will take advantage of you're soft spot and in the end you will be there, alone in resentment...

So how to find this balance? I found that prayer has helped and meditation might also be a good tool to have. Other than that, it is to be aware ofyour own feelings And make the correct decision. A decision that implys looking at the long haul effects.

Finally I want to say this. What is it that you seek in relationships? Its not just an excuse to socialise and exchange ideas. But also to share the love in a respectable way.
Do not just follow the frame and setting that they have set for you, but feel free to express yourself in whatever. But be respectable of others and remember to adapt to people. Just because u want to overcome certain dillemad of your own self is not an excuse to cross social boundaries.

If any of you gone through the same procces or is goih through or perhaps you have advice on being more emotional aware and stable and able to let go. Then feel free to share.
Always share a positive message, peace!

 

Thanks and that is a very well way to put it. I do think that behaviour is the first step to improve you'r character. But i also think that intention is something very different. And intention might seem good, but sometimes it can work against you like you mentioned. So yeah i just come to respect people for who they are. Their behaviour is very important to me, but also their intention putting it together we get a character.
Changing the way we say things, broadening our arsenal of personalities is a great trait to have.
The work of a human being never stops, especially in the spiritual realm. I love doing things on a consistent basis.
Moving on, a well balanced trust in my own knowledge while also accepting other peoples knowledge , proves to be important .