Problem with PE

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by Fallensoldier1, Aug 12, 2018.

  1. Fallensoldier1

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    Possible trigger warning

    So I have been struggling with P for most my life. Started when I was probably around 10. I have been with one woman sexually, my current wife. Fast forward to last fall I have finally been wanting to quit P for good. We haven’t had much sex in awhile but I’m hoping that will start changing as I’m trying to stay away from PM. Anyways almost every single time we have had sex I always finish way too soon and struggle with PE (premature ejaculation). I have read a lot that this is P induced. Usually when I used to pmo i would always finish fast too when I finally found the material I wanted to finish to.

    We don’t have much sex at all currently. We actually did the first time today In a couple months and once I got inside I didn’t last a minute probably. If we had it more often Also would I maybe last longer?

    A few weeks ago we started messing around and we were about to have sex. We were making out and touching for probably 5 minutes or so when she touched me down there and we were about to start, I finshed everywhere before we even started. That has NEVER happened to me before.

    When she has went down on me I do last longer. But genital contact I can finish very very fast. Will this heal if I can successfully reboot? Is there anything I can do to help? Our sex isn’t that good if i can’t last very long and please her. I want real, emotional, physical connection. Not fake pictures or videos.
     
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  4. THIS-IS-IT

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    Are you still using Porn? Are you still masturbating to orgasm?

    It takes time, but it dies get better. I never had PE while using PMO. I didn't have problems with PIED and PE until I tried quitting PMO. Coming up on 60 days no Porn or Masturbation andy issues have really improved.
     
  5. Freddiefox

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    If you have stopped with P and M things are going to be very sensitive for a while. You could trying doing more things for her before you go in to make your time together last longer and she probably wouldn't mind.
    I rondo know if you have told her what you are going through and trying to fix now but if you have she would also know things like this can happen.
     
  6. Fallensoldier1

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    I am not currently PmO’ing. I mean I used to do it daily sometimes more than once up untill a few months ago. Now I have made it a few weeks and then would slip and try to start over.

    I was hoping with time it would get better.
     
  7. ReadyToStop

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    Everybody reacts differently to quitting. Our brains and bodies are complicated. Sleeping, sexual function, mood and energy are just some of the things that get thrown into chaos for a while once it all changes. It's withdrawal and it's tough. That's the nature of addiction.

    Stay the course. We're all here with you.
     
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    Thank you. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do for sure.
     
  9. ReadyToStop

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    Yes, it is. You're a strong guy, though and the urges are your enemy. Fight it.
     
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    Thank you for the encouragement!
     
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