Probably gonna relapse

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Lonely poe, Jan 12, 2017.

  1. Lonely poe

    Lonely poe Fapstronaut

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    My wife just left me. We have been married for a year now. I am on my 4th day of no porn. Thinking of relapsing hard into porn again. Anybody out there with advice?
     
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  2. Deadlihood

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    Terribly sorry to hear that, man. How are you holding up? In any event, porn is certainly not the answer - I assure you.
     
  3. Dr. Jekyll

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    Do NOT do this! If you are anywhere close to being as desolate as I imagine, use this desolation to send your psyche a powerful message. Life has given you your wake-up call, loud and clear! WAKE UP!!! Tell yourself - I AM DONE WITH THIS BEHAVIOR!!!

    Want to do something drastic? Take a hammer and smash any device that you have used to get P. Toss every bit of P that you own into a fire. When your addicted brain moans about it, tell it: tough! Desparate times call for desparate measures. Scorched earth, no more, no excuses! Done! This is your wake-up call!
     
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  4. Themadfapper

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    Don't use POM as a vehicle to deal with depression and despair. You are just adding problems and it will make you more depressed and exacerbate mental issues you already have. It will become a horrible habit and depression and despair will turn into triggers. Hopefully, you can use the low times to motivate you away from destructive habits. Realise it's not gonna be wanking the one time it will lead to a habitual habit triggered every time you feel down, and it can lead to all kinds of other destructive other things.

    Someone might think it's only one drink then 15 years later they are dying of liver disease.
     
  5. Shugi Shugi

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    Don't. It will just make you feel even worse.

    If you need to distract yourself go do something less destructive (or preferably positive). Go read a book, play some video games or binge on a TV show you haven't seen. Man, even emotional eating or smoking would be better than porn. There are plenty of stuff you can replace porn to find comfort in that will do less harm or even no harm. Maybe go out to a beach, take a vacation if you can afford it, treat yourself with something positive.
     
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  6. Lonely poe

    Lonely poe Fapstronaut

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    Haven't been online all day guys.. Really sorry.. Couldn't reply to any of your heartfelt support.. Anyway I am still holding up. Pray for me.
     
  7. Lonely poe

    Lonely poe Fapstronaut

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    Holding up somehow. Great to meet u and thank u for the kind words.
     
  8. Max.Effort

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    Hi Lonely Poe,
    My name is Max, How are you doing today ?

    Whenever I feel like I am gonna relapse or have the urge to, I go online and I read article about the harmful effects of my addiction. If that doesn't work, then I start doing push ups or pull ups, it helps me release the tension that the urge makes me feel and move on from it .

    I hope you are doing find and I hope hear from you,

    -Max
     
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  9. Rikarwb

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    Remember that you'll always have yourself.

    If you consider "yourself" as a friend, you'll never be alone. So find something in you to move on.

    I can assure you if you go throughout this without relapsing, you can do marvelous things in this world, because it is not easy. Right now focus on forgetting what happend. If you dwell on it, you're going fall through a endless pit of depression. Go do something that forget about her ( and PMO ) that you like.

    Good luck, my friend !

    ( Dunno if you're into this kind of music, but this one is powerful, energetic, and right in your face. I think you'll need it ... )

     
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  10. Lonely poe

    Lonely poe Fapstronaut

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    Hello.. Great to meet u. Still holding up somehow. Really miss her and all... Horrible getting hit like that...
     
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  11. Lonely poe

    Lonely poe Fapstronaut

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    I feel lucky to have a community thar's this much supportive. U guys are awesome... Hats off to all of u
     
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  12. Rigel7

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    Hey Lonely Poe,

    Sorry to hear about what you've been going through. I hope and pray you've been holding up well in spite of everything. I'm not sure why your wife left you, but I hope there can be reconciliation perhaps someday. I'm on day 4 as well since my last PMO too, so I just want to encourage you to keep on fighting!

    -Rigel7
     
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  16. Lonely poe

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    Loved the flow chart.... Will keep that in mind alwaya.... Great to meet u btw... :)
     
  18. Lonely poe

    Lonely poe Fapstronaut

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    I survived. It was probably because of all thw support u guys provided me with.
     
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  19. Lonely poe

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    Well.. I don't quite know about the reconciliation part. Please pray for me.
     
  20. Rikarwb

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    I don't know how can one get sick from cold water ... BUT you can always warm it up a little bit to a point where it is still uncomfortable, but doesn't get you sick !
     

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