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Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by DudeFromAfrica, Jun 4, 2015.
Amen brother !
Very edifying !
Let us eat only the manna of God only !
4 years ago, the interview below with a man who got rid of PMO, was to me an inspiration and I decided to do everything he did and in the same manner. This man was then over 10 years free. His approach became my approach.
So read this interview:
Question: What age did you start masturbating? What age did you stop?
Answer: I was in grade 9 when it all began; my first year in high school. That would be around the age of 14 I think. I must have been around 20 years old when I stopped. It was shortly after my conversion.
Question: What is your age now? How long have you been free of masturbation?
Answer: As of January 2nd, 2013, I am 31 years of age. I have been joyfully freed and without temptation for about 10 or 11 years now. It isn't something I battle or struggle against anymore.
Question: Are you married or single?
Answer: I am married and have been married for 6 years. (Free of masturbation as a single man for five years before getting married).
Question: Please tell us a summary of how you found freedom from masturbation.
Answer: When I was a new Christian, no one told me masturbation was wrong. The Holy Spirit began working in my heart and I began seeing it differently. So I knew it had to leave. But every time temptation came, I immediately prayed to God. I'd end up praying every minute sometimes. It felt ridiculous at times, but I persisted. I had no other choice. I had to be free. I kept submitting to God, and resisting the devil. The devil finally had to flee. It didn't take long, perhaps a few days or weeks... not sure. It's been about 10 years and I don't get tempted at all ever. I am disgusted by it. It's like having 'homo-incestual' sex with yourself, if you excuse the term. There is a fight indeed, but looking back, I am grateful to have stood my ground and fought.
Question: When you say that during temptation you "immediately prayed," how in practical terms did you pray? Did you just ask God to set you free from the temptation?
Answer: When I first became a Christian, I was discipled by a Pastor who talked a lot about the importance of prayer. He prayed on average several hours a day. Being a new Christian who was very excited about the Lord, I began praying a lot just as I was taught by him. I developed a prayer life. Genuine, heart-felt prayer to draw near to God began changing me from the inside out little by little. I began seeing pornography differently. The more I kept watching porn, the more I felt dirty and uncomfortable watching it. I began seeing it the way he sees it and eventually became turned off from it. A prayer life became the means for my deliverance from pornography as my heart began changing as I approached the Lord. 2 Corinthians 3:18 "But we all, with unveiled face, beholding... the Lord, are being transformed into the same image." We do the "beholding", he does the "transforming".
Time went by and I was still stuck with Masturbation which I felt needed to leave. That one was harder to get rid of. I became fed up with dealing with masturbation and I determined resolutely to end it. This is how it happened for me: Every time I had a desire or temptation for anything that would lead to masturbation, anything associated with masturbation (as we know the enemy is witty and finds ways to trick us), I would close my eyes, lift my hands to God and pray to him to rescue me, I'd praise him for being such a good and powerful God... I'd essentially focus all my attention on him for a minute or so until I noticed the desire was gone. But sure enough a few seconds later this same desire would come back.
I would repeat the same thing, not as formula (going through the motions of prayer), but from the heart I'd seek God. And again a few seconds later, temptation returned, and I'd repeat the same thing. It seemed ridiculous at first as it would repeat over and over for 15 or 20 minutes at times. But I was determined. This is what this verse means: "Submit to God, Resist the Devil, and he will [eventually] flee." When temptation came, I resisted the Devil by submitting myself constantly to God in the midst of temptation. Eventually, the devil stopped bothering me. I don't remember how long it took until a full deliverance, but I am guessing no more than 2 weeks of repeatedly turning to God.
It can be a few days for one or even instantly for yet another and much longer for another. The point is, a heart pre-disposed to pleasing God is the primary ingredient. Will you steadfastly persevere until you find your deliverance? The devil will put a fight and convince you to give in.
it will be continued in the next post....
Question: Did you always pray until the temptation was gone or did you stop after one or two prayers?
Answer: Yes, I prayed until the desire or temptation was gone. But it came back within seconds. I would repeat my heartfelt prayers to God asking him for help, and praising him for who he is. The objective was to focus all my attention on Him so that I did not listen to the reasonings and persuasive arguments in my mind that would cause my downfall. So when temptation came, I prayed and prayed and prayed, usually not lasting more than a few minutes, until the desire was gone. Then I'd continue my daily activity. Doing this weakened the temptations in my life until they were completely gone. Today, I am not tempted AT ALL anymore. It's been about 10 years.
Question: What helped you not to give up praying? Would you please say more about the importance of persistence in prayer?
Answer: Good question. I am not sure, to be honest. I was resolute and determined to find my deliverance. My answer would have to be "faith". Allow me to explain what I mean by going to one of Jesus' parables. Luke 18:1-8. Jesus taught his disciples a parable to "show them that they ought to pray and not lose heart" and then speaks of the persistent widow who bothered a judge for justice until she wore him out and got it. This demonstrates that prayer must be relentless and aggressive. It will not relent until it finds its deliverance... Remember, Jesus is teaching them a parable to show them that they should "always pray and not give up" (18:1)... but what I couldn't understand for years was the last verse of that same parable. Verse 8. "But when the Son of Man returns, will he find faith on earth?" Why is he talking about faith when the parable is about prayer? Simple. Faith produces a relentless aggressive prayer that will not back down until it sees its "deliverance", just as that widow did not back down until she got justice. Prayer MUST be mixed with faith. If you have faith, you will pray until you lay hold of your deliverance.
Question: What counsel would you give to a young person who has this temptation and addiction?
Answer: Be aggressive and persevere in prayer. Submit to God in prayer every time temptation comes. Cultivate, in general, a life of prayer apart from when temptation comes. Whenever temptation comes, turn to the Lord right away and pray to him out of a genuine desire to know him and please him. It may take a little time, which is what sanctification is. We aren't changed right away. We are changed from "glory to glory" as we "behold him". Or to put another way, "We change little by little as we seek to know God."
Question: Thanks for sharing your story. Any additional thoughts?
Answer: Christians are told in the Bible to set their minds on the things above and not the things of the earth. They are told to focus on the eternal and not the temporal. Jesus said his Words (the Bible) are "spirit" and "they are life".
The responsibility is on us to feed on God (anything pertaining to Him). We hunger for what we feed on. If we are caught up in all the entertainment and games and other distractions of this world, we will always hunger for them and we will remain on the level of what is temporal, fleshly and of this earth. To then overcome something such as masturbation, for example, is futile because masturbation is what you reap as a result of living in the flesh. If you feed on junk food and you will always crave what is junk.
To change your desire towards masturbation you must first learn to feed on God through a disciplined prayer life, through constantly reading his Word, and replace all the distractions of this world with more of the spiritual. It goes against your craving, that's for sure, and it’s unpleasant at first because you are attempting to break a bad habit. So put aside what is distracting you and reignite the spiritual fire by feeding on the Word, and by praying unceasingly. As you do this, you will discover your heart changing towards sin. Your heart will begin desiring what is righteous and hating what is wicked. You will be able to overcome masturbation on the spiritual level. At least that's how I did. And if you are already spiritual yet stuck with masturbation, remember that, like all things, we must subject every work of the flesh to God. So when flesh knocks at your door, quickly feed on the Spirit.
Back to me,
I witness that all that is said in the interview above is most effective I ever tried.
If you are doing what the man did you will be healed.
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