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Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by DudeFromAfrica, Jun 4, 2015.
I just found this thread. Please pray for me.
God bless you!
I'm in. Yes a prayer group. Pray for me. The heart is deceitful above all things. I don't trust my little streak of 7 days without M. I give this to Jesus this problem. 7 days is great though but I feel like its fools gold because I know that k could slip in a heartbeat. I trust God and his power to keep me. Thanks guys
If I may, I would like to propose the Chaplet of the Divine Mercy. I will try to say it everyday for everyone in this group, so that le Lord help us defeat this addiction and learn chastity. You're all welcome to do it also.
Good idea, persistent!
@Mr Eko. I think, yea, I have some praying to do. I still feel sad for young me but I do think God has healed me to an extent from the hurt and the guilt. But I guess the impact on my personality and habits are still with me. It would be good to pray for the guy and maybe just tell him how his actions affected me for the closure/to get back my autonomy.
So, guys, I messed up
I thought I was doing fine. So I stopped minding my thoughts and triggers.
So I have a question. How do you purge yourself of a trigger? I feel like once I've been triggered it's only a matter of time. Even if I ignore the urge and it goes away it comes back later for sure. And I can only fight for so long....I'll admit that my will to pray during temptation is zero to nothing.
@Nanavee I have the exact same problem! Something that can help is to take some time, turn of your computer and try to think about your reasons to nofap etc, ask God to help you repent and work on a sincere resolution to start over again. If u didnt binge, your work is not lost by the way. And watch out for the chaser effect...
This was the cause why I had been remaining a PMO addict for so many years. As I got to understand that only God could help me in urge I begann to force myself to pray when tempted. This was a breakthrough.
After the First prayer the next urge came back after some short time then I forced myself to pray the second time..... and so on... I did so until no another urge came back. (The above process was conected with partial vowing obviously)
Doing so consistently after some shorter time no urges came back. I don't remember having an urge for 3 years. What comes now are weak temptations Which I'm able to ignore remembering my present vow. Sometimes I add a prayer when I feel that only remembering is not enough...
What we decide to do in urge or temptations is crucial If we decide to solve it without prayer ( without God) then thousands of people praying for us are not enough. Once again - not praying in a problem is to say God - I don't need You now, I'll do it myself. And God does nothing to show us what we can do alone without Him.
Seems like that's a common theme here. I'm also having a similar problem these past days. Last week I was fine, but a dream triggered my desires some days ago, and I feel like I'm losing the battle inch by inch, as if I'm only delaying an inevitable outcome. Each day I win seems to make the next day more difficult.
Anyways, please pray for me, as I will also pray for you all.
I also want to join this group and be prayed for and pray for you.
In my long experience of abstaining often and failing sometimes I've realised that this is a lifelong pursuit which is best shared with others.
As an aside, to the people saying that once they have a trigger it becomes hard to prevent relapse. I know what you mean - the way our brains are wired means that we create circuits which go from trigger to bad action. We need to rewrite our minds through practice and prayer so that our circuits become trigger to good action instead.
In periods when we are weak especially at the start it can also be good to reduce exposure to triggers as much as possible. This can mean not listening to sexy music (most pop music now), not watching much TV (most dramas have sex and most other programmes have attractive people) and limiting or exposure to the Internet especially at the times we know we are weakest. One non obvious trigger for me is that if the news is particularly bad (and it often is) my brain then seeks something to elevate my mood. Well that doesn't actually help but unfortunately that's what I do so I often have to tune out of the news and spend more time on God.
At the moment I also struggle with the lack of clothes women wear in summer (perfectly reasonably when it's hot) so I have to consciously make myself look at other things like nature or focus on praying for the people I see to make my mind see them as fellow people of God and not sexually*.
*Not that I actually want to have sex with them but attractive women do trigger the urges.
Please pray for me I'm on a 9 day streak right now and don't want to relapse
As always Mr Eko your advice is rock solid. This is hard but nothing good comes easy. So I'm back at it again. Thanks for all your support!
Yea I get those crazy dreams too. One thing I realized is that I should not dwell on it or even try to remember the dream. Treat it like something you wish you hadn't seen and put it out your mind. I think your body is just adjusting to the new lifestyle. I'll be praying for you.
Ha yea I did not watch out for the chaser effect. But it's ok. I repented and back at it again. We're in this for the long haul. Fall down 6 times get up 7. We'll get through it.
Hey guys, please keep me in your prayers. I'm having trouble staying on target here lately. I'm getting Married August 20th and I have a goal to make it without PM until that day. This would be a milestone for me. I can go 7-14 days now but I cannot make it past this. I've been praying for God to give me strength but I keep psyching myself out and find reasons to give in.
Hi all! I'm new to this whole process and would love to join your group as well.
My streak isn't very long, and when i've tried to stop PMO by myself before, I usually only last 10-15 days max before relapsing. I'm afraid of something similar happening again even though I'm in community with people on this forum, keeping a journal, etc now. Please pray that my resolution would hold fast and that God would help me through this.
And of course I will pray for all of you above my post as well. I truly believe there are few things more powerful than prayer, and all of us banded together will accomplish great things with it through God.
God bless all of you!
Prayer for you guys. I have been away and not doing so well myself. But I am not quitting and trusting in Christ to guide me through this time. Thanks
Please count me in.
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I'm going to kneel down right now and say a prayer for you all specifically, and also for all the Christian fapstronauts, and finally for all pornography addicts.
17So I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking. 18They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts. 19Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, and they are full of greed.
20That, however, is not the way of life you learned 21when you heard about Christ and were taught in him in accordance with the truth that is in Jesus. 22You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires;23to be made new in the attitude of your minds; 24and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.
There is a chain here in verse 18, which applies to all of us believers or not. Our hardened hearts lead to ignorance and darkness, which leads to sensuality and separation from God. Sensuality - the pursuit of things pleasing to the senses, causes us to lose sensitivity. This is addiction - we have lost sensitivity so we need to chase more and more sensuality.
I think we have to defeat addiction at the root - our hardened hearts. Some say that our hearts can only be softened by the grace of God - maybe this is true - but perhaps the grace of God can come to us through our prayers and our time spent reading and contemplating the scriptures. I have been helped in my (limited) success in defeating this addiction by really spending a lot of time studying my scriptures and allowing the teachings to penetrate my mind. I feel as though our hearts can be softened by the word of God.
We are instructed to put on the new self - to be made new in the attitude of our minds - this is how we act out our faith. Put off that old self.
Thanks for your prayers guys. This Sunday I talked about Numbers 11:4-6 -
"The rabble with them began to crave other food, and again the Israelites started wailing and said, 'If only we had meat to eat! We remember the fish we ate in Egypt at no cost—also the cucumbers, melons, leeks, onions and garlic. But now we have lost our appetite; we never see anything but this manna!'"
I compared Manna with Cucumbers. Manna must have been this super food, Since it provided all of the nutritional needs of the Israelites. They didn't need meat or veggies, just manna, that God provided. But that was not enough. They wanted to go back and have fish and cucumbers. And Slavery! Today in my devotion I realize that my addiction to porn is wanting to go back to the slavery of porn and want cucumbers instead of Manna. I forget that God can provide me with everything I NEED ( not want). But I want those other things that lead to slavery. Manna may not taste as good as fresh meat and cucumbers, but it is God's provision of me today. So I chose Manna, God's Manna.