Posting about relapsing will make you relapse again

I disagree to a point. we need to be aware of the dangers around us and the things we ought to stay away from (like Porn or Drugs). there does come a point where we know what we need to stay away from and hearing it over and over again, just brings our minds back to it. but to avoid discussing these things all together is what got us to this point of addiction.

 

For me, posting about relapsing helps me not relapse. It helps me remember my feelings and emotions immediately after I do relapse. I think the point you're trying to make is that if you actively try to go through your day with the mindset of "I must not relapsing" then you'll relapse. But just posting about it won't make you relapse.

 

I disagree. I think the same as IWantaBetterLife22: it helps to talk (write) about it to avoid doing it, because we're delaying the urge to FAP by doing something else. But, as the FAQ says "NoFap is not the same for everyone" (http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/wiki/faq). So if not writing about relapse works for you, keep doing it.

 

Yeah, I went through a major relapse a while ago, in which I threw myself fully into the jaws of PMO for a solid month or so, offering no resistance and just being numbed out of my mind by my addiction. The word 'oblivion' kept repeating itself to me and it was a really, really dark time.

But something spurned me to start a thread here about my fall and as all this crap started tumbling out of me - shame, humiliation, failure - the way back somehow magically revealed itself. Just in writing, all these shadows tying me down dispersed, and hope rekindled. Then I heard positive voices of encouragement and I had enough wind to come back to myself, take charge of things again, reach out more to others and now I know that i'm where I should be, doing what i'm supposed to.

Yet i'd probably still be in deep slavery if I never admitted that I had bottomed-out and honestly confessed it. So i've learnt that owning your failures publicly is a pretty crucial step in recovering and it's probably impossible to do it alone. But the worst thing to do with a PMO addiction (or any) is to remain isolated and in denial. It'll just make a meal of you if you try.