Post relapse

Hey matamoose. As you can see I am a professional relapser. It does suck to relapse and the main thing is to just try again. I do have one very important thing to say. DO NOT relapse twice or more in one day. Don't just think "oh well I already relapsed today so I might as well get it out of my system" or anything like that. That just gets you into the habit of relapsing more often like I do. Just try again and think about what went wrong today that made you relapse and don't have it happen again. Try really hard to last as long as you can. Good luck

 

that's right. I just relapsed and I feel shitty as hell. You should Never think it's okay to relapse again!

 

I just finished my second 30 day no PMO stint. I relapsed just after my first challenge and I wanted to start a new one but it took a while before I could get up to even 3-4 days without relapsing. It is hard to start again, but it gets easier after the 5th day I find.

I found that thinking as if I was starting absolutely from 0 helped more than thinking I had done 30 days and then went back to 0. Thinking you've lost something can get you down and it might be the "oh well fuck it" trigger. Think as if this is your first time on the site. Maybe even start a brand new journal, which is what I did.

 

Congratulations on 25 days. That is a great achievement! So damn you for relapsing!!!

You fear it will be easier to relapse again? Good! Because that risk is truly there. But it is no less or greater a risk than the risk of relapsing in the first place. Don't try to grade these things like one thing is better or worse, easier or harder than the other. A relapse is a relapse whether it is after 5 days, 25 days or 90 days or 2 years. The consequences are the same and so are the causes. So it is good to have that fear. Hopefully it will keep you from being complacent.

I relapsed after 74 days because I got complacent. And I got even more complacent after that. My best advice to you is - keep coming to nofap. Don't stop! And the fact I have just told that to you means your addicted self has flagged that and is going to try and convince you not to come here. Ignore it. Prove it wrong. Punish it if that voice tries to convince you otherwise. Keep coming to nofap to where there are people who will support and help.

You are doing and thinking the right things. Keep going! Good luck.

 

If you find out let me know. Let us all know, because that seems to be the most difficult thing at the end of the day.