Porn use replacing partner

in that moment when he hurt you, what went through your head? Is that why you are here? if not please expound?

 

i can sense how you would feel that way

 

so sorry to hear that. I can feel the pain coming in through the keys. is it just the 2 years how long has this fully unfolded?

 

it is difficult to love while in pain, but possible.

 

How long did the emotional abuse go on for?

 

um hm i am rsorry for the delay i was helping a friend. what is your love language? feeling, seeing or hearing. how is his use presently?

 

and when takes you to that dark place is it more of a pain or an anger torwards him, and do you blame yourself.

 

wife wifes is verbal mines are vision, and feel

 

you are capable of love. be sure to see the best in YOU

 

what has he attempted to do to solve these concerns? if it ever gets to heavy let me know,

 

PM replaced much of the intimacy and sexual relation in my relationship, which is over six years long now. I experienced a lot of ED and often would not be able to orgasm without fantasizing about porn/other women. This put a definite strain on our relationship, because even though I loved her deeply at that time, my efforts and thought spent on her weren’t near what I was spending on P. It caused considerable issues in regards to both her and my self esteem, and especially under the sheets. This continued until around six to eight months after completely dropping P and M, and now I haven’t experienced any sexual malfunction when I’m in the mood. It’s best to reverse that trend ASAP because of the hurt one can cause and disregarding much of the potential connection with one’s partner.

 

The last 7 years before D day we had sex maybe 10-15 times, going very long periods inbetween. By 'sex' I mean barely any piv as hubs would lose E. He always finished himself. We did have an okay sex life before this but hubs worked away a lot so we never had an 'average amount per week'. It was when we saw each other. The year before our son was conceived (I now know) my hubs used porn to combat his DE and basically used my body whilst he fantasized (although I didn't know it at the time). He refused ANY intimacy and rejected me during pregnancy in favour of the PMO he was fast becoming addicted to. From then on he chose PMO and real life MO over me for 6 years (except for a handful of attempts).

 

I have only just recently realised how much my P habit had affected our intimacy. I started having ED issues over a year ago, went to the doctor but still used P to get off and didn't think it was the cause! We hardly had any intimacy and i can only imagine how she felt during this time. I was blinded to what P was doing to me and our relationship, only now can I see it and am determined to channel all my desires to her. I hope it all works out for you.

 

I’m so sorry for what everyone is going through.

My boyfriend has had ED for many years, we’ve been together for almost two... it’s been about 8 days since he stopped P and M... but he doesn’t say it’s an addiction. I’m pretty sure it is.

Anyway, the reason I’m responding here is because I really felt a heart tug about when the PA is suppose to be making love to their SO, but they are thinking about/ fantasizing about P and the women in them. I asked him the other night in our first talk about this, and he very nonchalantly said, I think of P and other women. I asked, do you think of me? No.

Heart broken.

 

WOW I AM SO HEAR BROKEN FOR YOU. & DA NILE IS A RIVER IN EGYPT. THERE CAN BE NO TRUE TRANSFORMATION UNTIL HE HIMSELF REALIZES IT, AND DECIDES TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN. TELL HIM YOU ARE NOT HAVING THAT SHIT! YOU WILL BE SURPRISED AT THE POWER YOU HAVE!