Porn is warping the minds of our youth...

Day 4- everything is going really well…. First therapist appointment today after work. I was worried that I would feel anxiety or apprehension about the session, but so far I am actually looking forward to it. These last several days have really been an eye-opening experience for me in so many ways… and I am excited to continue the journey.

One of the things I have been curious about this week is discovering what my triggers are… it’s one of those things you don’t recognize unless you’re consciously on the lookout for them. Anyway, I think I found one this morning. I am a political junkie, and love to read about what is going on in DC… and with Trump in office, that politics junkie in me is on a constant high. The Wall Street Journal broke a story last week about Trump having paid off a porn actress- Stormy Daniels- to keep quiet about an encounter they had in 2006. Of course my first impulse upon reading this story was to do a Google search for pics of Stormy Daniels…. I will need to be vigilant going forward in deciding what news stories I should probably avoid reading…. And be honest with myself as to WHY I should avoid them. I noticed another news story about Donald Trump and Stormy Daniels this morning… I quickly realized where my mind was heading, closed the article and found something else to read. Small victories.

I’d like to spend a little time writing about a conversation my fiancé and I had last night about societal pressure and how it can (and has) completely distorted our view or reality. We started by discussing the pressure young girls feel to look a certain way and to act a certain way. Television and the media present an idealized caricature of what women should be- how they should look, how they should behave… what they should wear. “Hey, ladies! You have to be a size 2 in order to be considered attractive…. Gotten the message yet? No? Why not look at this issue of Cosmo then and get back to us…” Of course, the social pressure placed on young girls and women is nothing new, and it has been well documented. Then I changed the direction of the conversation to young men. What is less talked about and less understood I think is the pressure young men feel. Speaking from personal experience, I have always had a lot of anxiety regarding my masculinity. Not my sexuality… but my ‘Manliness’. I am strong enough? Muscular enough? Tall enough? Charming enough? Is my dick big enough? Do I last long enough? I think I am lucky in a lot of aspects in that I didn’t go through puberty with access to internet porn. My dad didn’t even keep nudie mags around- that I could ever find. My outlet was reading my mother’s harlequin romance novels. I would like to think that my impressionable young mind was at least spared in that the sexual encounters I read about and fantasied about had nothing to do with degradation or dominance. These were sexual encounters written by women- for women to read and enjoy. And I was using them to masturbate…. Not the worst thing in the world when you stop and think about the alternative…. Which brings me to my main point. Most young men and women these days learn about sex over the internet…. Which means porn, more than likely. These boys are being conditioned to think that is what ‘normal’ sex is supposed to be like. That you have to have an 8” cock and last for hours to be a good lover. That you have to dominate your partner. We are completely perverting their sense of reality…. And as a result, we are going to create a generation of Americans who don’t know how or who are incapable of having meaningful relationships.

 

The fiancé and I even discussed maybe trying to start an education campaign. Why isn’t the NIH doing anything? Schools? These schools need to be informing parents about this.

 

That stuff about Japan is no joke. It’s becoming an epidemic over there.