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Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Golan23, Jul 12, 2018.

  1. Golan23

    Golan23 New Fapstronaut

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    Dear all,

    So glad I found this site. Thanks to everyone who has posted. Great to know i’m not alone.

    I’ve been caught in a viscious cycle of porn/escorts for years. I’m totally ashamed and sick of it. But when the urge comes it’s like I have no control. I hate the idea of it but I love the escape it provides. But I struggle to get erections with normal girls, then rock hard with escorts, because of how they related to my porn addiction.

    I know the only solution is complete abstinence - reboot. And so i’m joining this community. All advice welcome.
     
  2. gtablor

    gtablor Fapstronaut

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    Good luck. I too have an escort addiction. You are certainly not alone.

    Since quitting porn I have found this an easier process.

    Journal, find an accountability partner. You will get through this.
     
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  3. Golan23

    Golan23 New Fapstronaut

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    Thank you.I think for me porn is the primary trigger, and of course escort sites. Who knows what the underlying issues are. But it’s been so helpful reading similar stories and I really believe this is the start of something, however naive that sounds.
     
  4. ak47_uk

    ak47_uk Fapstronaut

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    Good luck, I know how you feel. Just dont try feeling yourself if you know what I mean.
     
  5. Fishn1

    Fishn1 Fapstronaut

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    Come back here every day and read other's experiences as much as you can to see how you identify with others that have the same struggle. It's all I've got right now, but I feel a difference. If I get nonchalant and skip the site, the addiction gets strength and will sneak up on you and boom, you're back on that merry go round again. Let's find a way to get off that vicious cycle if we can.
     
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  6. Golan23

    Golan23 New Fapstronaut

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    Thanks guys. So far, so good. This site has helped so much. My method so far is, distinguishing between myself and the addiction. So any urge to give up, that’s the addiction talking. I’m just not listening to that part of my brain anymore. Already feeling cleaner, more pride in myself, but wary too that the addiction can manipulate these feelings to justify relapse. Not gonna let it!
     
  7. WackinWolf

    WackinWolf Fapstronaut

    I'm always glad to hear that someone else is glad and we are never alone. I've thought about escorts but never worked up the courage and at the moment I have no job, no car, and no money haha. Anyways I wish you the best of luck with your reboot.
     
  8. Lanius

    Lanius Fapstronaut

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    My advice is to have a little totem of your commitment to beating your addiction. I have a necklace that serves to remind me the lie pornography sold me. Whenever I see or feel it, I look at all the ways my behavior was effected by my porn addiction, and remember who it hurt along with the general evil of the porn industry. It really works for me and might be a good technique to try.
     
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  9. Golan23

    Golan23 New Fapstronaut

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    Day 6.
    Going strong and loving it - feel much less self-loathing. Feel physically stronger.

    2 helpful things:

    1. Repeating what I’ve read elsewhere on the forum, but for me this was what made me stop ‘struggling’. Whenever I get an urge I think ‘I’m where I want to be. Giving in will take me where I don’t want to be’. This might seem simple, but for me it works to crush the urge, undermine it, instantly.

    2. Downloaded a free mediation app. Been doing the Isha Krya meditation in the morning and the evening. For some reason it feels like a reward or celebration of being pmo free and makes me feel good.

    Anyway - could just be me. Just sharing in case it helps anyone else.
     
  10. Dhalia

    Dhalia Fapstronaut

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    Same advice I just gave. I think allowing yourself to be that way. Stop judging and then start looking for solutions. I was fighting being against my tendency of getting abused or likunbit. Until I stopped. Then things could change. A lot still has to change but this part I could solve a little further
     
  11. Muphy

    Muphy Fapstronaut

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    I am 29 .. watching porn since I was 12 .
    Never new I was addicted .. never heard of nofap.. just going on..
    I tried to stop this and believe me you can hold it for a week.. but when weekend comes .. it's all back and you'll think it's ok to stop for 5 days and I'll watch now and get satisfaction and then from tomorrow onwards I'll try to abstain for two weeks..
    Well tomorrow is Sunday .. you'll watch and fap it again thinking you'll start from Monday..
    In next week you'll do on thursday by accident and then you'll think ooooppss .. ok.now it's done so I'll again start from Monday and the you'll watch and satisfy yourself on Friday Saturday and Sunday.

    Now on Monday you'll think ohh I'll start from 1st of next month it's only 4 days away and swearing this time..

    And it's all going to repeat and I'm next month you'll block some websites .. then stop watching youtube for some time and this sort of things you'll do whole year.

    Trust me.
    I found that two year ago that there is something not proper while having sex with my gf..

    And after that two years i kept giving excuses that I'll stop from today from Monday from next month and many more.

    Now it's been 20 days and I have stopped it all. Nothing at all.. and now I don't imagine sex at my office.. I don't imagine sex in bus... I don't imagine sex while commuting..

    The secret is..
    I started reading a novel. It doesn't give me time to think anything else. I come from office at 5 and get into that novel and I read it till 8 .. have dinner and again back to it.. call my friends on phone for time pass... Then back to novel.. sleep at 1am and wake up at 7 am .. back to novel.. I don't watch TV.. I don't watch movies on laptop.. infact I haven't opened laptop in days.. I read on Kindle so there is no option of just googling stuff and distraction by anything..

    I chose a novel..
    The mistborn triology..
    It has 3 books in series.. and then three more books in series .. and then 2 books as prequel..
    Total 8 books..
    I have reached on 3rd in 20 days..
    By the time I complete 8.. 90 days will be passed..

    Also the book.is great..

    My suggestion: reading is excellent habit. Select some book with long series and get yourself involved into... Also this book has no porn or sex stuff so you'll not reach down your trouser while reading it.

    It helped me a lot and I already see changes in my routine..
    I need less sleep.
    I am attentive at office .. I feel a new energy in myself..

    Try it out.

    I might not have explained in some attractive fashion and with good vocabulary.. but trust me it has helped me ..
    And surely will help.you.


    Plus don't read other people's problem Bec that might excite you..
    Don't visit this website again and again and ready other people's problems..
    Like .. I am not reading your problem Bec that might excite me to do something..
    Just come to your post read suggestion.. post new if needed and log out..
     
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