porn addiction change sexual preferences?

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by RogerLimaSilva, Apr 10, 2019.

  1. RogerLimaSilva

    RogerLimaSilva Fapstronaut

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    Hi, How are you?

    I am new to No Fat, and I started my first 90 days PMO a couple a days ago, sorry for the basic question.

    May porn addiction change sexual preferences?

    I mean, If you watch too much porn, Does it make you search for contents that you will never do?or content that is very different from your sexual preferences?

    For instance, I am straight, and I have a girlfriend, but I have gotten myself searching for bisex videos. I have watched a couple of videos, then I felt very bad about it after watching it.
    I am really concerned about it, because I am not sure what have triggered it.

    Thanks
     
  2. Freddiefox

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    Welcome to the community.
    Yes, it's called escalation, the mind wanting the next most exciting thing.
     
  3. bakes

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    There are stuff I've seen no way I would do in real life for sure. That's why i also feel ashamed. The brain gets accustomed to the dopamine release of normal sex porn. Normal being what you think is acceptable as sexual activity for you. But that gets boring and the brain needs new stuff. Without porn that is good thing. For animals it's useful in mating season for example. Every new female becomes a new opportunity. Our brains unfortunately are not built to see more than 10 naked woman for a lifetime. Nowadays we see millions in a few months.
    The good news is it's reversible. So keep up with your reboot and you shall be fine
     
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  4. 19m

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    yes it does it has happened to me and it sucks if you ever need someone to talk to i’m here man!
     
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  5. RogerLimaSilva

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    Thanks, I think what you described is exactly what is going on with me.
    At the beginning, I started to watch regular porn (girl/man).
    Than I moved on to group sex, swinger, and amateur porn.
    Recently, I noticed myself looking at bisex videos - I respect who is bisex, I do not want offend.

    Is escalation supposed to fade way with reboot?

    Do you have any suggestions on how to minimize or control escalation?

    May escalation change someone sexual orientation?
     
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  6. Infrasapiens

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    "No Fat" Amusing. Yes, your mind gets used to regular things and you want worse to find pleasure.
     
  7. RogerLimaSilva

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    Is that why even though someone has downloaed tons of porn content the person doesn't stop searching for new content?
     
  8. Infrasapiens

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    Yes.
     
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  9. ivanhoe

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    Two questions are asked here daily:
    1. I just did x, did I relapse?
    2. I watch x(gay, tranny lover, granny lover) porn and now I think about x(gay, tranny lover, granny lover) porn, am I (gay, tranny lover, granny lover)?

    99% of the time the answer to the first question is yes, the answer to the second is no.
     
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  10. RogerLimaSilva

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    It is weird though, when the urges comes, all this stuff is remembered...
    I am on early days of 90 PMO free, and is getting difficult to ignore Morning woods.
    Also starting to have random sperm emissions...
     
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  11. Robullfrog

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    That's addiction and boredom rolled into one. You can download masses of the stuff and often not even look at most of it. You can download stuff you have no interest in in real life but in the comfort of home you do it to feed something missing, or compensate for loneliness or depression or whatever because what worked before doesn't excite you as much. Escalation. It's horrible and can tear away a lot of the real you. That's why we have to battle these things. Don't let porn ruin your character and eat away the days.
     
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  12. Epic Fight

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    Its exactly this and it goes DEEP. Deeper than you can even imagine while u addicted. Its scarry. Its a mind controll and it does bad things to you. Im not religious but this is devil. It just is. 2 years 99% free. Thanks god!!!!
     
  13. SpringWater

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    I’m in the same boat bro, I escalated a bit more then you did..so I say stop now, it’s not worth the deep well you can down and the well is bottomless.

    The worst part is the change in how you see other people and your fantasies.

    It will go away.

    The mind is so sneaky.

    I mean it’s normal even for a 100 percent straight guy to every once in a while have done “crazy “ thought”...and that’s all the opening porn needs to pull us under.
     
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  14. A.V.R

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    The escalation can take you to dark places that you never even think possible it's scary.
     
  15. RogerLimaSilva

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    This is really freaking me out man!
    No offense, I even caught myself looking at man's butt and remembering bisexual porn videos...

    Each day without pmo, looks like more scalation thoughts pop up in my head...

    Hopefully, rebooting will fix this.
     
  16. ivanhoe

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    I suggest reading the book "Unwanted" by Jay Stringer - he is a christian based therapist - but it's not an 'ask Jesus and pray it away book' - nowhere in any secular sex problem book have a found insight into the reasons for our fantasies - and there are reasons - once you realize this fundamental truth: Your fantasy is trying to tell you something.. some unmet want, unmet need or repeating a trauma (this can happen a lot with men who were molested by an older trusting adult) - once you start to figure out what that is, the fantasies can start to lose their power..

    He also strongly advises to NOT be ashamed and guilty - that's what gives the fantasy its power...
     
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  17. SpringWater

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    It will get worse before it gets better. Once you stop lorn your “gay” thoughts will get worse..like your mind is searching for the dopamine kick..it will pass..almost like a drug user has to ride out the “detox” phase.

    One day at a time bro..that’s how I do it.
     
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  18. lifespark

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    This is me totally. I am losing day after day in a dopamine haze and it doesn't matter how much imagery I see, I always want to look at more. I was on a porn site the other day and there were literally hundreds of images of hot women, most of them stunners yet still I was there, in a trance endlessly scrolling through them. Any one of them were I to meet in real life would be more than enough. I hate what porn does to our brains.
     
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  19. ivanhoe

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    the problem is they are made up, photoshopped, girdled, push up bra'd and they are PAID to allure you (oh an chances are they were sexually abused and they are getting cheated out of their money and have deep addiction and drug problems themselves) it's all an illusion, one that you can never satisfy in real life because it just doesn't exist.
    It's like drinking salt water when you're thirsty - that's the nature of the addictive cycle.
     
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  20. RogerLimaSilva

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    Thanks a lot, I am going to try reading the book you have suggested
     
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