Please help!!!

There is always hope, zoom out and look at the whole picture not just at the things that are not going right. Write down five things you are really grateful for, then sit down for 5 minutes and just focus on listening to your breathing, then get up and go for a walk, get some fresh air, look at some trees and green things for a while. God has already forgiven you, you must forgive yourself. Set backs will happen, they make us human, we will never be perfect or should be.

Every morning and night look at yourself in the mirror and say the words
‘I love and accept you exactly as you are’ twenty times. Yes 40 in total for the day, it will feel stupid but do it anyway. Do it for 90 days

 

Bro you can do this. We all believe in you. Many of us have relapsed (to many times to count) and know how devastating that can feel. I wish we could all just quit on the spot but the damage we have done to wire our brains to porn is a very real thing. We're not going to get out of this overnight. However, every success (no matter how long or short) is a step in the right direction. You have started those new mental models and can continue to deepen them with every success. Part of the process that I learned was how to handle my failures. When I'd relapse I'd get real down on myself but I realized that that only lead me deeper into my addiction. I'd want to numb that feeling of despair instead of letting it lead me back to victory. Be mindful of this negative feedback loop. Even after a failure you can rewire your brain for good. Even when you fail you can get right back up! Stand with us bro. We are all in this fight together. We need to pick each other up and support one another.

 

Wise words.