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PIED. Question for SOs only.

Discussion in 'Partner Support' started by Deleted Account, Apr 13, 2018.

  1. I'm interested in hearing from SOs who have been denied sex through their PAs impotency & PIED. I'm really curious to get thoughts only from those who've experienced this. Just for this one thread.

    It dawned on me last night how important sex is to me. Not so much when I'm single but when I'm in a loving relationship with one man, I love it. I enjoy feeling special, attractive and validated, and to have a man that I love show me this on a regular basis is an amazing feeling. Because I know that although he's got access to porn, he's choosing to come to me for sexual gratification again and again.

    Anyway, the more I thought about it, the angrier I got. My PA knew that I saw love and sex as the same thing and would, therefore, be faithful and give my sex to him only. And I did. I felt so close to him that I was fine with him talking to me while I was taking a bath. But I didn't feel ugly then, I thought I looked "okay" but was comfortable with my body. Now I know why he never made a move on me in there. Cos he'd already got himself satisfied, denying me sex yet again.

    I accepted his impotency as not-his-fault (he let me believe that) and so never told him how frustrated I was that he couldn't perform. I've never experienced that so didn't know what else to think. But of course I was. I'm in my 30s. I masturbate, have orgasms and I'm even allowed to vote. I'm fucking furious he took 3 years of active sex life from me.

    For those of you SOs that have felt this frustration and had lying porn addicted partners watch you have a sexless existence, when you find out, did you declare an open relationship? After all, isn't that what we were having anyway, just one-sided and unofficial?

    He told me last night he can't guarantee he won't relapse. He's been PMO free for 3 months but still doesn't know whether he'll go back to porn. But surely that's a choice now. If I pick up alcohol after being 9 months sober, that's my choice. It's not because I'm still so in the throes of addiction and operant conditioning that I don't know any other way. I do. I've done it for 9 months. If he's done it for 3, going back to porn is now a choice.

    No-one ever woke up with their dick in their hands, on their knees, over PornHub saying, "What happened....?"

    What I took from his statement is, "I can't guarantee I won't wank over other naked women again."

    Ever think, it's about time I had some fun? X
     
  2. Kenzi

    Kenzi Fapstronaut

    Of course!
    What is good for the goose is good for the gander, right?
    And my PA has PIED.
     
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  3. I don’t mean to make light of this, but this is the best wording ever.
    This is the way I talk to myself in my head. :)
     

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