PIED can get a boner but problems with having sex

Hey everybody,

I am 28 yo and not the type of a shy guy. I think a look attractive to woman and had some relationships in the past. It is no porblem for me to get in contact with girls.

I MO since I am probably 13 yo and even watch porn this long.
About 5-7 times a week.
In the last couple of years I can't remember waking up to a totally full erection.


My issue:

when i met girls I can get a boner easily from kissing and touching.
But when it comes to sex after a short time I am not hard enough to penetrate her.
This happens not all of the time but meanwhile I am afraid of sexual contact. Sometimes I cannot be hard all the time if she gets me a bj but a hj works well.
With my last relationships the sex was sometimes very good but on the other hand it doesn't work that good.

Sometimes I tried not to musturbate before meeting my ex/some other girls to be even harder. That turns out quiete good but not everytime. I often watched porn and M but not to O. I just stopped before. My erection is even harder and more easily to get if i watch porn.

I wanted to go to a doctor that I can be sure everything is good down there.
I have questions in my head like: Is my dick too long to be complete hard or why this happens to me most of the time?

Than I heard of nofap, read some articles and finally found this amazing forum.
I heard the first time that PIED is a real problem caused of the f***** porn industry.

My plans:

I want to go for a 60 days challenge of no PMO. But stop watching porn forever.
In my opinion it is okay for me to have sex with girls but in the next 2 months I will avoid it. An other point I read in the forum here is that it can be very bad if I always M with a hard grip and than at sexual contact the grip is less lighter.

You are a really great community if you have any questions feel free to ask me

I will share my progress and results with you out there...

 

Day 2
I am going to achive my goal!
No random erection today. In the past this happens only if I looked at porn or M.
Think my body has to rebbot.

 

Day 5
Tonight i woke up with an huge errection.
Was a good feeling.
Last days I wasn't even thinking about watching porn
Think I am on the right way. But did not have any errection during the last days.

 

Take it slow... maybe you shouldn't try to have sexual contact with a girl for about three weeks. And no PMO of cource.
Then you can start with a girl. I think that will work for you

 

Thanks for your advise. That's exactly the point i am focusing at. Because getting hard with a HJ is no problem.
I want to keep my erection up as it was back in time

 

Day 10

it's the longest time without having an O ever.
My urges aren't too strong.
Two days ago I was chating to a girl about meeting and having sex.
I got erection just from the thoughts. But the fear of failure when it comes to sex is high.

But I will wait till 30 days without PMO are over.
I stoped watching P 22 days ago.

Sometimes I wake up with morningwoods but not that often and not that strong(about 60% hard)

I think i am right from the start in a flatline. No random boners at the day.

 

Day 13

I am feeling good today. This night I had a dream about having sex with one of my ex gf.
But I didn't O. So no wet dream.

Two days ago I had big urges to edge because I was writing with a SO about having sex.
We want to see us in 2 weeks. So I will be on day 27 with no PMO.
I did not get any erections all alone for now. Just if I touch myself.

I think I can live without P forever.

 

Day 14

Today I was MO while I was sexting with a new girl I will meet next week.
I did not feel upset about what happend because I did not watch any P since 26 days.
And I think that P is the most problem for myself.
It's the first time that I used coconut oil and be very gentle while M. NO DEATHGRIP

I have to regain some sensibility on my penis and I think oil is a good method.

I will not MO as often as I did in the past. Only in contact with girls.

I am looking forward meeting this new girl next week and see how sex feels after one month
without any porn.

Advise: Don't blame yourself too much. You have to find the right path for yourself

 

Day 4 again

since I was sexting with this new SO I am in a flatline again.
No morning wood, No random daily erections.

--> in my last streak of 14 days I got a few MW.
So I think it needs even more time to get them back.

I will meet this girl on Friday and it probably ends up having sex.

I'm curious if my PIED is better after 35 days without any P.
Wish me luck

 

Thanks a lot. That is for sure.
Make her happy and you are happy

 

haha...but I think this can be cured with no doubt
time can heal anything :-D

 

so you went back no PMO very often or just few times?
That gives me hope