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Photos / Videos of your significant other count as porn?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Scott1971, Nov 10, 2013.

  1. Scott1971

    Scott1971 Fapstronaut

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    If your wife, girlfriend, partner etc. allowed you to take some sexy photos of them or even let you videotape some of your exploits together, does that count as porn?

    My wife has allowed me to do both on a couple occasions and I have the material saved elsewhere now, it's no longer on my hard drive. I have also deleted ALL of the other porn off of my computer, not a pixel of it remains, but I saved the stuff of her on a flash drive and tucked it safely away. I'm a little leery of looking at any of it for the moment for fear of it initiating a reset.

    The video content I could probably live without because the quality wasn't that good anyway (lol), however some of the photos were taken during a very special vacation she and I took together. Aside from being sexy, they DO have sentimental value and I don't want to delete those.

    I probably just shouldn't look at them for a while.
     
    Last edited: Nov 10, 2013
  2. Volition

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    Hi Scott, this is an interesting question.

    It makes me want to ask you another question: do you value the photos of your partner more than your partner? (I'm guessing not). If you have the real live person there with you, what is so important about the photos?

    I can see the nostalgic value, but are you intending to use them as a crutch to masturbate with sometime in the future?

    I understand this is a tough question I am asking, but I want to understand your perspective on the benefits of keeping them...
     
  3. As Volition says, if you value the photos more than your partner then yes, I would count it as porn because its still a digital photo/ video of a real person. And not the real thing.

    Otherwise I would say its up to you to decide whether you choose to bond them with fapping or as a picture that the two of you could look at together.
    If it is nude pictures/ directly targeted at sexual stimulation then yes, I would put them away and not look at them. Instead choose to have real sex with my partner.

    (From one person to the other, why would you wanna have sexual pictures/ fapping to pictures of your partner? I've never understood that concept, please explain. Considering you actually do have a real partner to have real sex with).
    NO criticism! just trying to understand.
     
  4. Scott1971

    Scott1971 Fapstronaut

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    Very solid questions. First off, of course I don't value the photos of her more than her. But I know where you're coming from. I think for some, and admittedly myself at the time, it's an attempt to capture an idealized, sexualized image of your significant other that you otherwise wouldn't have been able to at other times. Maybe you just catch them in a "frisky" "adventerous" mood and you seize the opportunity. That's pretty much what I did.

    My intent is not to masturbate to them in the future. Though I admit I have done when she wasn't around or otherwise not in the mood for a while. Keeping them at this point is for pure nostalgia. My thinking on the matter is that when she and I are all old and wrinkly, I'll have pics of us when we were still relatively young and sexy. Though I'm sure she's going to be a very sexy 80 year old lol.
     

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