PE & ED due to thoughts

I feel you man. I too am 32. And I to experience the same thing....the thoughts trigger anxiety and then the ed arrives. I've been diagnosed with all kinds by doctors.....since I stopped taking their advice I came to my own conclusions..... that I do indeed have issues.....OCD I believe. Where by I have distressing or intrusive thoughts. Which is any thought that triggers or causes anxiety.

I also have made more progress with the steps in stopping this...... although incredibly difficult.

In my case The way OCD works....

Obsessions followed my compulsions = no change in results.

OBSESSION: I will have a thought and instantly obsess over it. Like i smell bad or oh no im going to lose my erection. This causes distress and anxiety.The thought content is irrelevant but the obsessing is the important part.

COMPULSION. The response to the thought. The compulsion my brain knows is to fight the thought in my mind to try to calm myself to make the anxiety go away. Desperate to make the anxiety stop. Which creates more of it in a similar loop. Because what This high level of anxiety does is diverts blood to our muscles to fight.....away from our penis. We don't need that In a fight.

The key with OCD is to change the behaviours of the compulsions and do the opposite. So naturally you want to make it stop. And fight the thought
You can train yourself to say to yourself " ok I'm having and obsessive thought and the compulsion is to...........whatever it is. Run away or leave the situation. Whatever you do to make the anxiety fall.

By staying with it the brain will recognise that with no intervention anxiety reduces on its own with no help from our conscious mind.

If there's no anxiety there's no fear and if there's no fear there's no problem..

Hope that helps.

 

good job mate, keep up the good work. Stay busy and preoccupied with your time. Do not be in neutral gear so to speak.

 

From my experience, the more I thought about it and worried about it, the harder it was for me to become hard. Don't stress out about sex and do the best you can. Anxiety about being able to pleasure a partner is a large cause of ED, again just don't worry about it and do the best you can. My internet research and personal experience with PIED says that it takes more than a few days for erections to come back like normal and to be aroused from non-porn sexual things. It's going to take between several weeks and several months for PIED to wear off (which is what I think this is), but it's worth it once you're able to get an erection and keep it anytime.

 

Im going through the same thing at the momemt, had a bad experience recently with a girl and couldn't get erect at all! she was stunning and I thought there was something wrong with me, then I discovered PIED and this site. I really hope this cures me aswell because I used to have a healthy sex life with my ex girlfriend and I didn't watch much porn then, only started big time with it because of the break up. Im interested to know how you go aswell mate because I didn't realise porn was so damaging.

 

I had same and my pied was gone in 90 days after nofap no pmo

 

Im day 7 aswell! I am feeling more positive aswell and ive been trying not to think about it. Been doing big days at work so its keeping me busy. Its making me positive because I keep thinking about the outcome and also seeing the success stories so im kind of excited. I just don't want to ever experience something like that with a girl again. Keep me updated how you are going and I will do the same!

 

What was your experience? and how did you know you overcome the pied problem?

 

I did pmo from about 13 to 26. After I decided to stop for at least 90 days. I went for 90 days no pmo. Then I had sex without any issue with someone I found attractive. In college I missed out on a lot of opportunities because the pied made me apprehensive about meeting girls.

 

I m on my day 8 and i very super horny... Anyone could give me a support and help me... Thanks