PA do you ever really forget?

Make him go the day "phone free"
Just my suggestion

 

Good idea. He totally would. He hates his phone now. But he loves music, and wants access to the music. We have the rest pretty locked down, but he leaves it at home often when we go out. To the point it annoys me because I can't text him if I need to. LOL

 

This jogged loose another thought. If you fill your mind with things from today, it doesn't have to be forgotten so much as completely ignored. Anyways. My experience is years free. So.

Heartily agree. Would be nicer if he already offered. Less compel, more impel.
(Edit: p.s. I do not have a phone, either. So I can unplug when not at work.)

@SpouseofPA thank you for your time and your question. I'll go babysit my usual friends in 40+ and leave you all to this. Thank you for your efforts. It is healing the world one family at a time.

 

Kinda makes sense. I have to say for me, no. The thoughts or ideas of P, or the people in P do not turn me on. The further I get into my recovery and the more distance I put between who I am now and who I use to be, the better I feel. I am still attracted to thoughts and ideas but nothing around P or Psubs. It's things my wife does. I don't want to get explicit, but I'm still a man and she has certain features that I find extremely attractive.

 

I haven't forgotten entirely, although just now trying to recall things a lot less files to mind than I'd honestly expected. Regardless, those memories don't trigger me anything. In retrospect, their hollowness is obvious, and that drains them of the power they had.

Recovery is real.

 

OMG I hate black Friday! Worst day ever!

 

Yeah since my brain started working again, I remembered how to write like I used to.

 

WOW! How wonderful for you!! I hope and pray my bf feels similarly, the sooner the better.

 

Yes that's possible. But not without the power of Christ.

As is written in the holy bible:
Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature:
old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

I can witness that this promise is really working.

 

I don't know if my reply fits but I wanted to give my thoughts. I am still early on in this process. "Tried" NoFap a couple of times but wasn't really all in until a few days ago.

I started seeing P in my early teens and I can still see some of the images in my head from back then even though I am 30 now. I don't know whether or not I will ever be able to get all of the images out of my brain but I am not sure if that is an entirely bad thing. When I think back to them now the pictures that are the oldest are tied to memories of my mom crying because she found me downloading P on Limewire in the office while I was supposed to be studying. I remember the embarrassment of my Dad making me pay him cash for the portion of the phone bill I'd manage to run up by unwittingly signing up for some cam site back when the house was on dialup. Now, my most recent(and most painful) memories are the nights I spent alone because my wife had had enough or the tears of women I had led on and blatantly lied to in order to get them into bed. My P addiction ended up going way beyond the virtual world all too often.

I don't know if I will ever forget the images of the things I have seen and done in the past. As much as that sucks, one of the strongest deterrents I have today is the memories of pain, shame, and embarrassment I cause myself and the pain, heartbreak, and anguish I caused others. I don't know if it is helpful from a SO's perspective but I know that even though I remember a lot, I don't have a single fond memory from any of it.

 

Diggin' your scene right about now, @Roady. Can you maybe describe it better? How do you expect to access that in your daily life. I should have gotten into that before. Because that is ABSOLUTELY a huge part of my journey, which is posted in my journal but not broken down in a way that's perhaps relatable for the wives in this mix.

 

Once you receive the Holy Spirit, He becomes your shield, and that shield is keeping bad spirits away.
Also, this Spirit is washing your spirit totally clean. But that's a long life process.

To receive this Spirit, you have to go to the cross. If you believe that Jesus died on the cross to pay the price for the sins you and I have done, you will receive Himself.

When you receive Him, all the dark spirits which are inside you will start manifest.
Darkness cannot bear light. Light is expel darkness. Where light is, there cannot exist darkness.

And the Holy Spirit will convince you of the spiritual reality: There is a huge spiritual war going on.
That's why all porn addicts for example experience such a heavy struggle (= battle).

Do some study for your own and find out by yourself.

 

From my point of view, I think they can be forgotten. Today I am on my 62nd day of my way towards a PM free mind and I cannot recall a certain image or screen shot of a video clip.
BUT what I can recall was the status my mind was.
It was like I was on alcohol or on a high and given euphoria. It was the dopamine fix, as I've read here. That's where my current urges are coming from, that's where all my counter-urges forces are focused and that's why I hope I win my mind.
There is a story of an old wise Cretan farmer, who went to the doctor, and the doctor told him that he should stop smoking, because all his health problems were reinforced by smoking. Then the wise man said plainly, "Of course I will stop smoking at once. I did stop my mother's breast milk, which was very beneficial and smoking is going to win me, which is that harmful?"