Over 50 and acting like a teenager

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  1. over50

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    Due to my porn addiction I've experienced PIED and PE at the same time and am risking my marriage. I am extremely lucky to live in one of the safest and most beautiful countries in the world, have an excellent job (actually two of them), lovely family (4 kids), a few good friends and am still wasting my time with this. Especially in summertime with half-naked girls everywhere it's particularly bad. I sincerely hope that I can do this.
     
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  2. Huskerjim

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    This site has been so encouraging and helpful. You can succeed!
     
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  3. Whirlygig

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    I know exactly what you mean. But this site has helped me a lot (in the way of information, understanding what's going on in the brain, giving strategies and support for quitting) and I don't doubt that it can do the same for you. Stay strong!
     
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  4. over50

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    1st week - no problem. My past behavioiur seems less and less understandable. The more I think about it, the more I feel ashamed but I guess blaming yourself is part of the awakening.
     
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    2nd week - not as easy as the first one but still OK. I have learned that I need to avoid triggers in the first place. Caught myself looking at some nude pictures for a few minutes but was able to stop myself by focusing on my goals and why I want to stop P and M after all.
    Some improvement noticeable but far away from superpowers. We'll see how the next week goes. Reading in this forum helps me to stay focused.
     
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  6. over50

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    3weeks now and I can 100% say, it's worth the effort. Morning wood is so strong, it wakes me up, erections without touching possible (didn't have that in a long term), energy level clearly higher than in a long time before.
    The only slight disadvantage (for me) is that the sensitivity has increased too and having a slight PE problem, I have to M before sex (but without P), but I guess for people with DE (as most here in the forum) that's not an issue.

    Guys, stick to it, your life is going to be so much better without P. If I can do it, you can do it too.
     
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  7. over50

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    After 4 weeks came the relapse (chaser effect) but I'm absolutely OK with it. New game, new chance. I saw the improvements (already for the 2nd time) and don't feel that all is wasted just because of a short encounter with porn. But I'm dedicated to start again and live porn-free for at least another month. For me it's more about not falling back into the old habit.
     
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  8. Whirlygig

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    I admire your attitude, and hope I can see things the same way if/when I fall off the wagon too.
     
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  9. suntannedsailor

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    Yes, summer time is definitely challenging... But we can do it!
     
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  10. over50

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    Thanks to both of you for your comments and encouragement.
     
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  11. over50

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    Well, here I am again after a few more or less successful streaks (realizing that the only really successful streak is the one that never ends). Sad to see that the people who were answering me then (11 months ago) are also still struggling. However, I think it's important to focus on the positive things. I learned that a longer streak (my latest one was 40+ days) does really improve you in very many ways. What I also realized (and this is very bitter pill to swallow) is that I potentially have never in my whole long life reached my full sexual potential, as I was fapping since before I ever had sex. Thanks for reading.
     
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  12. Ogikubo

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    Rooting for you. In a similar boat. It is a struggle. Felt like a king for a few weeks, so focussed. Now it's more difficult but turning life around while there is still time is essential. If you have a therapist, it might be helpful. But I did not even speak about it to mine until I'd been seeing her for years, because I never saw it as a problem. Now I see how I let it fuck up many facets of my life. So, don't give up this time!
     
  13. over50

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    Thanks a lot brother, we can do this together. I don't have a therapist and I still have the hope that I can do this on my own. I also never saw it as a problem, didn't even realize that it might have an impact on my life (in hindsight: how stupid can you be?).
    Only now, after having stopped for some weeks and in-between never really fully fallen back into the trap, I am beginning to realize what damage I have done to my life and relationships. I guess I will never know and maybe I shouldn't try to go too deep as it might bring my whole self-conception to a collapse.
    I am very thankful for your support and the support of others here!
     
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  14. Ogikubo

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    Same. Just knowing there are other guys - esp. guys in my age bracket - who have lived the same way for years and are now starting to realize it - has given me a lot of hope. Man, it is really tough to quit. But I just can't go back to living the lie anymore. Power to you.
     
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