only ugly girls approach me in dating sites?

Very True

 

Though I'm trying to stay away from dating until my 90 days... from my experience (however bitter this post sounds) online apps like tinder give even average women nearly all the power and the feeling that they basically custom tailor their next boyfriend.

Unless your model material with a height of 6"4 (is that the new magic height number on tinder? seems like it is going up each month) and a 8 pack hot girls will not approach you. Those girls are too busy responding to endless messages and focusing on the main reason they are there... attention and validation that they are not just another generic blonde girl.

Woman on those sites usually swipe left on guys that she would possibly approach in real life. Who said technology was always a good thing tho, I prefer getting a drink thrown in my face than squandering hours of my life on those apps and not getting anywhere. At least I have better odds despite reeking of girly fruit cocktails.

 

I'm seriously depressed by guys' attitudes on this thread. Women are not this superficial, are doing internet dating for the same reason you are, and there's no such thing as a generic blonde. I think you guys are all under the spell of maybe "PUA" or "Game" or something, and aren't actually talking and listening to real women.

Am I the asshole here?

 

I'd say both yes and no. I think a lot of guys fall into the trap of "If only I had XYZ, then I'd get the babes" attitude. At the same time, research shows that having a model's body is going to help, *particularly* with online dating sites.

As an experiment (admittedly not scientific), I made a fake tinder profile with some male model's photos, and it was a clear difference in response rates.

 

Some of yalls responses are outrageous. Attraction at the basic instinctual level is what brings two people together at the beginning. If you think I’m going to go after somebody unattractive then you’re high.

As for the OP’s question, like some people have said on here, attractive women generally have more guys then you can imagine that hit them up daily on these apps. So odds are, if you aren’t giving yourself a shot by “pimping out” your profile, then forget it. Even then, 99% of the time you’re gonna have to make the first move.

 

Look boys. A fellow man. Hello there fellow male citizen. Hope you are having a nice day.

With a manly signature as well. Congratulations

 

Is that meant as an insult to other posters? How is it meant?

 

No.

 

WOW PUA I have not heard anything about that on this site in awhile go out meet REAL WOMEN and you will figure it out patterns happen the so called game is not about taking women serious all the time its about learning to adjust to there moods . It also means not taking everthing serious because most of the time its not about you

 

This is very logical and non bias. Everyone has his or her attractive and non-attractive standard. I know it sounds mean to call some one ugly, but I am sure there is someone who found that person attractive. I can only say like attract likes base on your own attraction.
I do believe there are some extent of beauty filter overall in human society because people would want to procreate with someone with attraction, so all the people with good genes will carry on. Attraction can be looks, power, wealth, knowledge and so on but I think looks sure play a huge role on initial attraction. Called natural selection.

 

i really think that you have way better chance to get a GF in real life then a dating site . why ? first girls get so much attention on dating sites , u have so much competition . girls once they get too much attention they raise the bar . try asking girls out in real life . you need to learn to have the i dont give a damn attitude .if a girl says no then u move to the next one . think of it as if u re swiping through different girls on a dating app , expect this is in real life XD .

 

Yeah about that knowledge part. I attract sapiosexuals. People who love my brain. If I was not that, I would have probably get half as many dates/girlfriends. And definitely not as hot. Sometimes I just stare at my girlfriends beauty and be like xD she could be with anyone but somehow I got her to be with me and it was not my looks and I dont have that much money. But I am high on some hiearchies and I have knowledge. I am talking from a lot of research and experience. I am a short guy and overweight altho I am almost skinny again but still.

 

It is normal. Pretty girls look at best looking gays.

 

Such a breath of fresh air!!!!

 

First off, P gives men unrealistic standards. Real women are not perfect air-brushed models. PMO, and even just MO in general, makes men feel less attracted to women in general. Second, women are more than looks. If they look plain, that's fine, because other people might actually consider you plain. Third, when in an actual relationship, oxytocin makes your SO seem more attractive to you. The more bonding behaviors you practice, and the more you are in love with them, the more beautiful they become in your eyes.

Rebooting will help you see clearly and think rationally about all this, and make more women seem attractive to you. The women you don't normally notice will start to catch your eye. Your brain will begin to see normal everyday things as rewarding.

 

Ain't nothing wrong with hanging an ugly broad bud we all start somewhere

 

I have read similar accounts on many sites. Men only wanting a "10". After PMO ing for years to airbrushed, edited, and enhanced P, I think most men become less attracted to real women. Also I think in some biological and psychological way, the PMOer's brain actually thinks it is mating with all these "perfect" women-so he feels entitled to them in real life. Before any man complains about only the "ugly" women approaching him on dating sites, I suggest that he take a long look at himself and ask himself how he rates in real life. Perhaps he could look at his reflection in a window accross from where he is sitting at the computer, pants around ankles, drooling over a fake woman, to get a sense of how alpha and attractive he is to the opposite sex.

 

thats because online dating sucks :



Most woman are on that site to get a fuck because the hot guys in real life don't want them so they use profile pictures and hot pictures to get hot guys. They only look at hot guys because in real world they probably won't get them...


want hotter woman? start approuching woman in real life. You will not find hot woman at a dating site if you are not a hunk or really hot guy. They only look at you're looks at online dating. especially dating sites like tinder who are made for hookups.

 

you prove many guys point that online dating is for beta's... He has a point most woman on dating sites are not the best woman you can get. It are mostly woman who are desperate for a fuck(like you mentioned) thats why tinder has become a hookup site. A lot of desperate woman seak out guys to get fucked because in real life they can't keep the man they want(the type of guy the fall for) so they settle for something that isn't their type.

Yeah may sounds denigrating but thats the fact. Dating sites are for woman who can't seem to actract the confident alpha male. Not allways because of their looks there are hot woman at tinder.. maybe because of their personallity shy, shallow, desperation, attention..

I am not saying every dating site is like that but tinder is its just a collection of desperate woman who want a fuck nothing more nothing les.

If you are a guy who wants to have a healthy relationship then don't go to tinder simple as that. And for the person who says only ugly girls date him well thats because supply demand... He is on dating site where woman who don't find the guy they want are hooking up .

the most confident woman (and sometimes hey aren't hot) don't do dating sites

call me shallow but you will never be considered ALPHA if you approach woman online you approach them in real life thats called confidence having balls. if you do that there is 50 % change girls will fall for you more

 

I've no wish to be argumentative, but that's another load of bullshit. "Alpha", "beta". Where are young guys learning this nonsense? Porn, probably.

As for women, yeah your post does sound denigrating.