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Online Chats worse than Porn?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Deleted Account, Jan 20, 2017.

  1. I am struggling with quitting online chatting and sexting online. That shit is pretty addictive i was wondering if anyone had tips, ideas. And yeah are online chats worse than porn?
     
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  2. SnowWhite

    SnowWhite Fapstronaut

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    Chatting is at least a two-way communication, while porn is one-way ;)

    Basically you are going into a dream world.

    As long as you can openly admit to it, and enjoy it for just some time, it is okay.
    But when you cannot control it anymore, or are hiding it away, it is addictive.
    When you are using it like a drug to flee from reality, then you need to draw a line.
     
  3. ILoathePorn

    ILoathePorn Distinguished Fapstronaut

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    I think online chats are worse than porn. Like @SnowWhite said it is a two way communication. You are connecting with someone and that can make you even more involved. I would maybe even say chatting online might even be an escalation from looking at porn. Maybe not though, it would probably depend on which one you started first. You get that interaction started though and it can be very addicting.
     
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  4. I've always viewed these things as an escalation since instead of just hurting yourself, if you're single, you're now hurting another person, whether that be using them for your own sexual gratification or by enabling their addiction if they have one.

    I personally believe anything which divorces love from sex renders those sexual acts as unhealthy and useless.
     
  5. It's a sexual thing for you, yea? And it's still the same pixels on a screen. So it's the same crap. I think it would be different if it would be with intention to eventually meet with the person offline. Cos then it is a tool that serves you for a better goal, which is real connection with person in blood and flesh. That's an example of a good use of technology. But when it is a goal in itself to get that dopomine rush, relax, get off, etc then it is negative. Maybe not AS negative as porn because text symbols do not stimulate your brain so much as video or pictures, but still negative crap.
     
  6. TheLoneDanger

    TheLoneDanger Fapstronaut

    I don't believe in making blanket statements such as "online chats are better/worse than porn". This all depends on the individual. What should be more focused on is the question "do online chats put me on a more destructive path than porn?" For some, it absolutely can be true. But for others, they are able to handle these types of correspondence with more control of themselves while also reaping the benefits of learning how to communicate with people. Is it ideal? Not even close. But you can see how the nuances of these forms of sexual gratification cannot clearly be ranked. Too many factors, situations, and individuals.

    I guess if you really need to answer the question, though, it's probably best to stay away from both.
     
  7. Yeah if hiding it away and not being open about it then it's an addiction. True with the fact that it's not blood and flesh. But this is the problem with me. I got such good imagination which is one of my greatest friends and enemies in this one. Not everyone can use online chats either, because it takes imagination and it takes encouragament and connection. The only thing missing here is truly REAL CONTACT. Because this is like real life, you try and fail, try and fail, try and fail. When you eventually succeed and "meet" someone and have fake sex it feels really good because in some twisted way you're kind of sharing that moment with a person but still on a screen with just words.

    So i wouldn't say it's worse now that i think about it than porn because porn doesn't offer that to you that it is a one way street with images and those images are stuck in your brain for a lifetime if you continue and are used as triggers in your brain. In online chats I can't use the same text as before since it's not that exciting and to be honest reading erotic literature isn't either which means every time that i do it i have to do it with no excuses with a new person and new text. But with porn it's usually always the same because the movies are the same and the interaction is at 0. But still because of the overly dopamine rush i get because of the encouragement you get from one another it's a bit more addictive but only if you don't find it ridiculous and like me have a great imagination. My greatest friend and worst enemy in this one.
     
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  8. TheLoneDanger

    TheLoneDanger Fapstronaut

    Great response! I never thought about it that way.
     
  9. erotic with sexual content on chat is still porn. It is still PMO hard mode. A solution is to get rid of membership of chat sites you go to for that. Also delete all past conversations that have erotic with sexual content. Get rid and block there conversations.
     
  10. But it's not a membership anywhere it's online like not something you pay for but for free, online chats like omegle for example. But yeah you're right about that i should quit and most likely will but it takes time fuck chatting is addictive. But sexual content this is like, ooh yeah i love the way your "mhm" bounces on my "mhm" i mean sure it's sexual in text but still you gotta be able to imagine that otherwise it's nothing but text and most ppl find this ridiculous. But still i agree cumin for nothing isn't worth it, even if i fight for it there like real life it is as close you get to real life without actually fucking a girl in real life.. In that way it is worse than porn. And the dopamine rush is twice as high here because you get it from the replies and then cumin because of the two-way street but it's in that way much more addictive. And it's not REAL CONTACT which is the whole point of this.

    But yeah in anyway i just relapsed and i am at day 0 so what the hell does it matter man...
     

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