On vacation in Chicago and girls everywhere! Help!

You gotta man up and do what you gotta do... Stay on the streak... And don't fall off it... You can't avoid such a situation... So you better try your hardest... If you can survive this, all else will become very easy

 

Sobriety will set you free. Keep striving.

 

I wish I could give you some advice but I feel yesterday and reset. Earlier in the day I saw a female that I won’t describe, but made me think about her for awhile. Such urges and like you said in another post, I get depressed after seeing them.

 

Good idea! Hang in brother! Breathe. Meditate. Pray.

It might be odd. Buy something like a stress ball or little distracting stuff you can carry. Focus on that till the urge is gone

 

That's just how it is in the summertime with beautiful young women looking comfortable, sexy and with skimpy clothing! When I see an angel like that, I instantly adjust myself not to stare or look any more than I have to so to not have memory impressions of her causing mental/physical arousal turbulence later. I see them as God's gift of beauty to the world, giving ecstasy to some and heartbreak to others. It's not their fault being gorgeous except that some are so vain to look deliberately provocative. You have to keep cool and stay detached with instances like that! The babes will pop out of nowhere! You have to be prepared to respond accordingly but not react toward a possible relapse later.

 

I agree! I also got triggered by a girl tonight. I’m going to try distract myself with a stress ball in my pocket. We have to be prepared to respond accordingly. Absolutely

 

Apparently it happens to all of us. But whenever it happens to me, I will always avoid looking their way and instead find these girls disgusting rather than letting myself get turned on by them. (idk if blaming these girls is the right thing to do though) Afterwards, I'm able to easily forget about them as I didn't think of them as anything special in the first place. I do this because I believe that what's on the inside(personality) is more important than what's on the outside(e.g. a person's looks)

 

try to get one

 

As someone from Chicago...
Don't.
Just don't.
50% chance you are looking at a hooker.
If you don't have the cash, you will end up getting beat and robbed.
(if you don't get shot)
Keep your eyes down and focus on your Reboot.
Good luck.

 

I have a mantra or affirmation I recite to myself
“Act so you don’t have to lie about how you act”
I’ve shortened it to “Act so you can tell the truth”
This is actually a quote from Jordan Peterson, he has a great book and amazing perspective on humanity and our failings and potential. Google him if you haven’t heard of him, his wisdom is gold!
Women in summer clothes is a huge trigger and really tough to avoid. A strong phrase, quote, mantra can help you re focus.
I should say I look away as well although I’m hoping as I get more balanced I don’t need to look away as I’m not triggered as easily,,, here’s hoping.

 

Glad you like it, been really helping me.
Here’s the rest of Jordan Peterson’s rules

Tell the truth.
Do not do things that you hate.
Act so that you can tell the truth about how you act.
Pursue what is meaningful, not what is expedient.
If you have to choose, be the one who does things, instead of the one who is seen to do things.
Pay attention.
Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you need to know. Listen to them hard enough so that they will share it with you.
Plan and work diligently to maintain the romance in your relationships.
Be careful who you share good news with.
Be careful who you share bad news with.
Make at least one thing better every single place you go.
Imagine who you could be, and then aim single-mindedly at that.
Do not allow yourself to become arrogant or resentful.
Try to make one room in your house as beautiful as possible.
Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.
Work as hard as you possibly can on at least one thing and see what happens.
If old memories still make you cry, write them down carefully and completely.
Maintain your connections with people.
Do not carelessly denigrate social institutions or artistic achievement.
Treat yourself as if you were someone that you are responsible for helping.
Ask someone to do you a small favour, so that he or she can ask you to do one in the future.
Make friends with people who want the best for you.
Do not try to rescue someone who does not want to be rescued, and be very careful about rescuing someone who does.
Nothing well done is insignificant.
Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world.
Dress like the person you want to be.
Be precise in your speech.
Stand up straight with your shoulders back.
Don't avoid something frightening if it stands in your way -- and don't do unnecessarily dangerous things.
Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them.
Do not transform your wife into a maid.
Do not hide unwanted things in the fog.
Notice that opportunity lurks where responsibility has been abdicated.
Read something written by someone great.
Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street.
Do not bother children when they are skateboarding.
Don't let bullies get away with it.
Write a letter to the government if you see something that needs fixing -- and propose a solution.
Remember that what you do not yet know is more important than what you already know.
Be grateful in spite of your suffering

 

He's a great man - very inspiring

 

Hey bud,
I had the same problem.W hat I do is look away then leave the place for minutes then return.

Also, what help me best is the desire to walk in public as if everyone admires me for not masturbate or watching porn

 

At the Whole Foods store? That's a surprise!

Good advice.

 

Hookers go on lunch breaks too... Lol, what? You think they don't eat?