On my 46th Day - Hardmode - I want to Girlfriend, but I do not care that I have not one. And you?

LoyalKnight · Jan 8, 2017

Greetings Lads!

I am currently on my 46th day. I have to say that I experienced major changed and improvements in my behavior which I would have not expected.

I still have no Girlfriend. To be honest, now I do not care anymore, I am not desperate to talk to girls with the intention of getting her as my girlfriend - I am only talking to girls because they are humans after all - just to chat and other stuff. Nothing about relationships.

I want to have a girlfriend after all, like most here, I guess. I might be wrong though. But I do not care anymore, I am living my life, pursuing my hobbies, studying.

What is your lads' thought about this?

Sailor93 · Jan 8, 2017

I'm 23 yo old now. Ever since I was 16 yo I wanted a girlfriend. I tried a few times but I was always rejected. After each rejection I wouldnt try again for months on end. 2 years ago I started working at sea. 3 months working on a ship, followed by 2 months vacation. Every time I was on board I would say, damn it, I havent found one in my vacation. But next vacation, I WILL FIND A GIRLFRIEND! 2 holiday months later, I would step on board again, single and virgin, but believing that next holiday, then...(deep breath).........nothing. Last vacation, I started Nofap, and have realised what I have been doing wrong for the last 7 years. I focused on getting a gf, instead of working on myself. I've always felt like I was doing ok in life, i did well in school, I trained hard. But the thing I didn't realise I had was low self esteem, no confidence and motivation. I would say too myself, your a fucking officer on a cargo ship, so go talk to that girl in the gym. Do you think I talked to her? I would say to myself, your the guy that can squat 100kg ass to the grass, go talk to that pretty girl in the pub. Do you think I talked to her?

Since starting nofap I have come to realise that I couldn't get past my inner resistance. I would say to myself uplifting things, but deep down I felt weak, full of shame and ugly. That has changed. I stepped on board again on day 20 of my 90 day pmo challenge. The last weekend at homeI went to a pub, to some shops and to a big christmas workout in my crossfit gym. How many girls looked at me, smiled at me, unbelievable!!! I didnt believe about these superpowers until I saw them that weekend. The day after I went to the airport and the same happened there! In 2 months time I will be home again. This time I wont promise myself that I will find a girlfriend. But I have and still am growing so much mentally that I feel like I can conquer the whole world whem I am back!!!

Work on yourself first, the rest will come.

LoyalKnight · Jan 8, 2017

Sailor93 said: ↑

I'm 23 yo old now. Ever since I was 16 yo I wanted a girlfriend. I tried a few times but I was always rejected. After each rejection I wouldnt try again for months on end. 2 years ago I started working at sea. 3 months working on a ship, followed by 2 months vacation. Every time I was on board I would say, damn it, I havent found one in my vacation. But next vacation, I WILL FIND A GIRLFRIEND! 2 holiday months later, I would step on board again, single and virgin, but believing that next holiday, then...(deep breath).........nothing. Last vacation, I started NoFap, and have realised what I have been doing wrong for the last 7 years. I focused on getting a gf, instead of working on myself. I've always felt like I was doing ok in life, i did well in school, I trained hard. But the thing I didn't realise I had was low self esteem, no confidence and motivation. I would say too myself, your a fucking officer on a cargo ship, so go talk to that girl in the gym. Do you think I talked to her? I would say to myself, your the guy that can squat 100kg ass to the grass, go talk to that pretty girl in the pub. Do you think I talked to her?

Since starting NoFap I have come to realise that I couldn't get past my inner resistance. I would say to myself uplifting things, but deep down I felt weak, full of shame and ugly. That has changed. I stepped on board again on day 20 of my 90 day pmo challenge. The last weekend at homeI went to a pub, to some shops and to a big christmas workout in my crossfit gym. How many girls looked at me, smiled at me, unbelievable!!! I didnt believe about these superpowers until I saw them that weekend. The day after I went to the airport and the same happened there! In 2 months time I will be home again. This time I wont promise myself that I will find a girlfriend. But I have and still am growing so much mentally that I feel like I can conquer the whole world whem I am back!!!

Work on yourself first, the rest will come.
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I can somewhat read my store there as well. Partly. I would be also saying things to myself like you did, like "I am X, why cannot you talk to her?" I could list thousands of things I said to myself, lol. At the end, same like you, I never succeeded.

Sounds actually awesome for you, keep it up! I witnessed these superpowers for a while as well, but now, on around day 40 I lost all interest. I avoid looking to girls because I fear it might trigger me... I think I've gone TOO careful here.

Cheers for the post man, have a good one!

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