Lately I feel like I have been struggling with wanting to feel important to other women in an unhealthy way, and it’s becoming detrimental to my progress because I want to relapse. At the gym, the women I have introduced myself to, I find wanting to talk to them more and more, I don’t go out of my way to talk to them, I wait for them to come up to me and they approach me to say “hey, good morning” and I want to talk to them and chat because I like and enjoy the conversation now that communication has been established. At work, I have gotten so much better at talking To the women I work with, and have started email chains and it’s easy conversation, but I find myself wanting them respond back immediately, and get impatient, and try to find reasons to talk to them in person. Even on here, I have been yearning at my inbox. But even so I’m not expecting anything sexual, but now I feel so obsessive over attention, and over analyzing “don’t make it obvious, make it seem casual etc” I know this is not normal, I just don’t know why I need this validation to talk to women lately, because I don’t really have sexual fantasies about these women as much since talking to them, but am I replacing that with the validation?