Now I know why you all refer to it as "d-day"

Although we had the conversation last night, and he admitted he was addicted, and said he would go 1 week without porn, today I suggested he go 30 days instead. And it all went south from there. He got super defensive and started insulting me. He said he had lied last night and that he does not really have a porn addiction. He said I had been reading too much shit on the internet and I was stupid and crazy. He said he just doesn't want sex with me, then called me ugly before storming off. That was about an hour ago He won't be back until 10pm. Earlier today I texted him about it and he said he was taking it seriously and that this wouldn't come between us. And then he reacted like this. I'm shocked and devastated.
I think he believes this is all my fault and I don't know how to change his mind. Was/is it like this for any of you? What did you do? I don't want a 7 year relationship ruined over porn.

 

I hope you are wrong. I love him too much, but you're right, I can't change him. I just can't believe he would try to hurt me this much, over porn, of all things. (I don't mean to minimize addiction but from my perspective this is so fucked up)

 

I would definitely do therapy before leaving him, at this point I am not even seriously considering breaking up with him. I want to know how he feels in the morning. Tempers were running high and I was very upset too. I still have some hope that he will realize what he's done when he stops seeing red. God I really hope.