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Not feeling happy...

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Deleted Account, Feb 15, 2019.

  1. So i have been trying to reboot but i have found it increasingly difficult and problematic because i am not entirely happy especially at this time in my life. Going to school everyday and spending my weekends doing nothing except wasting the day by watching videos on YouTube. I try to go work out but porn withdrawal (PAWS) makes me so unmotivated. I often have fights with my siblings and so i really do not like to talk to them or even be in the same room as them. And if you have seen my other threads you would know that i often get anxiety attacks and emotion spikes at random times in the day due to my addiction. I need some advice, how to be more productive, how to have the motivation to even do things that i wanna do, and just be happy as a teenager. One thing i like when i am at school my friends usually make feel happy and in a cheerful mood and really distract me from my problems, but soon as 3PM comes it all goes downhill because i either have to walk home from school with my psycho sister or i have to take the bus and come home and i usually just have a shower, get dressed, and sit on my laptop and waste the rest of my day doing nothing except playing games and watching videos. Again i really need some advice...
     
  2. Yeah man PAWS and Flatline put you on survival mode. I almost got fired multiple times when symptoms hit hard. This thing is suicidal asf man...
     
  3. LilD

    LilD Fapstronaut

    In order to achieve something, plan it. Arrange something for your holidays, e.g. go somewhere with your friends from school or something. Find a hobby outside of your home if you feel bored.

    As for mood issues, I think it's pretty normal to experience low mood during the start of your reboot because you're exhausted from your addiction. It's normal to feel bad when you have to give something up, even if it was something self-destructing. My current approach for rebooting includes the acknowledgment of the fact that I will not feel good just because I don't watch porn anymore.

    The important part of my decision to start my recovery is preparing for the worst. Because it's not like I'm trading with the universe, "I give up porn, you give me all I want in return." It's more like, "I give up porn, the rest is up to me." Basically, I don't expect anything more than what abstinence is. It's just one less self-damaging activity in my life. The rest will be exactly the same unless I do something about it. I will not become ever-happy just because I gave up porn, I'll have to make myself happy. Women will not jump on me just because I gave up porn, I'll have to improve myself and my life, learn how to flirt, ask someone out on a date, etc.

    Reboot is not a magic key to happiness, it's just a part of the hard work of changing myself into something better.
     
  4. Well I'm close to 7 months hardmode. I experienced all the symptoms mentioned about pmo when you abstain. Well based from reading other rebooters post and my experience so far, time is your best bet when going through PAWS. Most of the symptoms lessen, they just come back and forth and that's get you sick and tired... Make you wonder wh3n you'll be completely healed for good.
     
  5. BigOne79

    BigOne79 Fapstronaut

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    That’s awesome Freedom Taker and proud of you for seven months. I am actually interested in asking you about how you have felt after the 90 days. I am about four months solid and things are progressively getting better. My mood is changing but I still have low libido which I feel is pretty much tied to PIED.

    I believe that PIED is purely psychological and mainly because of the stress hormones our brain is getting put through. Once we control the stress and anxiety then PIED goes away albeit along with someone that you are actively seeing but that remains to be seen if you need a partner to get rid of PIED.

    When sis you feel the PIED symptoms, If any go away for you, and do you have anxiety and nervousness for awhile after 90 days. Look forward to your answer sir..
     
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  6. Thanks man and congrats to you as well!
    My withdrawals started after 2 weeks and still continue till this day. I didn't get a slight break until month 5. Then month 6 things start improving a lil bit. Now I'm preparing for month 7. I'm on PAWS, symptoms come and go. As for libido, it feels like coming back from time to time then disappear for weeks. I've read somewhere that PAWS can return even after months till completely rebooted.
     

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