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Good questions - for ingrained behaviour to change, other things need to change, too.

 

A sign of positive personal gains...

Last night, an old favorite cam model of mine tweeted that she would be on soon. I went to her page.

Though I was on the cam models page, I minimized the page, listen to the live feed, and questioned whether i should look or not. This would've ended the streak.

I talked to god and closed the page understanding that the short term pleasure wasn't going to equal long term gains.

Hopefully more battles like this are won rather than lost. Use this as inspiration, work to change your mindset and fight on!

 

Day eight completed. I was busy yesterday so I wasn't able to post yesterday.

 

Well done my friend... inspiration apparently comes from the words in spirit... so in the spirit of your direction... I salute you!

Yes... integrity in the face of temptation... that is worth honouring my friend. IN the ast few days.. i have had many a temptations... what I value wins out each day.. my gratitude for my direction and for the life that unfolds is far more rich than I could dream of

When I die I will look back and die without regret knowing every moment was lived to the best of my ability, with compassion for each action done out of integrity and love for each action done in integrity.

 

I find that meditation is instrumental. Watching my thoughts, noticing my sensations as key to developing awareness about the entire process of porn and how arousal works.
I would suggest if you are comitted to ending porn use...
try fortify.org as they have a great program that I found insanely helpful.
Also counselling which for me has been instrumental in finding support and direction. I have worked with somatic experience therapy (google peter lovine) which helps address traumatic experiences which for many people act as triggers for porn addiction.
If we can address how we feel within the body than we won't need to run from how we feel into addiction which is the pursuit of pleasure at cost of integrity.
Also suggest Teal Swan her youtube video is so helpful

One further bit of support... sometimes challenges act as the supreme motivator and catalyst into changing our entire lives around. Don't be afraid of the discomfort that comes with abstaining... change never comes unless we are completely ready for it.

 

28 days and No Porn and 18 days of march and solid porn free.
I have to admit creating an environment where I commit to my life that I really desire to live makes a huge difference. I remember thinking how incomplete I felt.
I remember thinking how impossible it would be to give up porn.
How the attraction and the novelty would be too much to abstain from.
When the pleasures and the possibilities seem endless I questioned how can I be at peace with nothing?
And yet here I am at peace, able to let the feelings come and go... the temptations arise and subside...
Like all things, they come and go... the big one for me has been ending the fight, the conflict with the state of temptation... not giving in or giving up but just surrendering to a deeper part of me that is beyond the problem...
I'm coming to see that living outside the framework of the problem I can truly live in a new way...
If I can suggest one thing... be with wherever you are, however you feel, however many times it appears that failure surfaces... be with where you are... it's all there is... if you find yourself somewhere you don't want to be... you can make the choice right there and then... at any given moment you can choose... that is the moment that counts... life is not for doing things we will regret when we die... but for living fully... no one is forcing us to be doing things we don't want unless we are prisoners or slaves... we get to choose... so so choose love

 

Day nine completed.

 

Am also in..for rest of march from nw

 

Damn, did I fail miserably on 1 January when I joined. Not only did I only last a mere 5 days, but then I went completely ape and well, did some really stupid shit! So here I am again, unable to get an erection without manual stimulation, a wife that's not interested in sex (had sex with her 10 months ago, and she fell pregnant, had to abort for reasons not for this forum) and an affair with a guy 18 years younger than me. I know...it's all quite f**ked up. So here I am again, trying to get my shit together. I am on day 8 today. I hope I see you guys on the other side this time round.

 

I'm in.

 

I second that!

 

Giving this a shot to honor myself and my girlfriend.

 

If you receive nudes from a girl... does that count against no PMO?

 

Integrity begins with our own investigation of what we value within.
If I carry shame around something, my best way out of that is by drawing the light of awareness into the shadows.
For darkness cannot remain where the light of truth reigns.
You are the first person to consult and the last about what integrity means.

 

Thanks for that @David&Goliath - I guess this is the link you mean: http://fightthenewdrug.org/get-help/

 

Good question - I'd say that it depends on what your goals are & what you do with those images. If the images are of your partner & you MO to them, you could say that's ok - it's not a fantasy - it's the real woman who's given you her images voluntarily. On the other hand, it could make it harder for you to quit PMO altogether. There are no rule here - it's a matter of what helps you best to achieve your goals.

 

Sounds like you've got some hard work to do - and doing it together with your wife - although hard - I'm sure will make it more likely to succeed. Keep up the good work.

 

Yes my friend thank you for the correction

 

Yes!

 

Hello.
As a newbie to this community I’m starting late but I would like to commit to NoFap’s PMO-free ‘hard-mode’ 1 month challenge. I aim to make it to the end of March, then try for 1 month – essentially gradually work my way up to 90 days (3 months) step by step.

The reason I am doing this challenge is because I suffer from sexual dysfunction PIED so need my system to rewire or reboot itself, to normalise. Also my spiritual and psychological health has suffered as a consequence of my addiction and I also need the community support to help me attain my goals. Basically, learn to like myself again, be a decent human from self-discipline.

So far I have managed PMO-free for 5 days.