NOFAP while in relationship, help how to deal with it?

I think if you are slave of masturbation and porn for long time, then take a stand, break up. Stop this addiction. Start new life. Having a girl around will excite you.

 

I’ve been in a relationship for over 4 months and it’s been fine. We engage in lots of sexual play and I have ejaculated during this time but through stuff she has done to me. I give her orgasms through oral sex, finger play etc. My erections are getting better and my ejaculations more intense. I’m just not pleasuring myself and that’s made a big difference.

 

I say figure out what you want for yourself first, independently of the relationship. Then consider how the relationship fits with your goals.

Do you want to just quit PM? Then you can O with your gf all you want.

Or do you want to do a harder reboot, no PMO for a set period? Then I can say from experience that relationship gets trickier. Some women really enjoy sex and might feel that you don't like them anymore if you're abstaining. You could try to have physical intimacy without sex/O but that can be really hard to do in the heat of the moment.

If you're interested in semen retention as a long-term plan, and still want a relationship (i.e. no monk mode/MGTOW), you should really invest in mastering non-ejaculatory orgasm for men. Mantak Chia has some books on this. Tantra yoga also has methods about it. I think finding the right partner for this is essential (I haven't gone that far myself).

 

Eat her out a lot, use toys, if you do have sex you could try a condom if you dont have PIED to reduce the stimulation, if youre not trying to O. Dont make the girl not have sex. Shell be frustrated yes but if shes really a keeper shell appreciaite that youre trying to please her while fighting your demons. Dont absolutely do not try to replace PMO with only O from sex. You'll end up having wayyy to much sex. My ex tried to help me by giving me head 4 times a week which was great but on top of that we had sex practically everyday. Its nice in a sense but honestly having too much sex has negative consequences for your brain her brain and you relationship as a whole. Also having too many O will lead you back to P btw. Get creative to find ways to please her