Nofap superpower

Hey guys. I started nofap in Nov last year and it has been 9 months. Thought I would write about the changes that happened to me during this time.

Prior to nofap I was desperately single and mostly dateless for nearly 3 years. I was obsessed with trying to get a girlfriend and when I couldn't I just kept fapping and lying to myself. Consequently I was trapped because fapping reduced my chances even more because it depleted my energy and women can sense your lack of energy. At the same time because you are addicted to fake sex when you are talking to women you are subconsciously giving off a neediness vibe.

After A few months of nofap I discovered I seem to have let go of the neediness for sex. It was hard initially to not PMO but with a combination of luck and willpower I got over the hump. I became more energetic and my interaction with women naturally shifted from subconsciously wanting something from them to providing them with masculine energy. I no longer had problems with talking to girls because I knew that I didn't need anything from them, consequently the conversations became longer and women's responses were a lot more positive. Of course I still got a few that wanted nothing to do with me but I didn't care because I wasn't desperate.

After a while I realised that because I was comfortable around women and being a energy provider rather than a seeker, I started to have a lot more female friends. I behave naturally around them with my masculine vibe, not afraid to crack jokes, tease them occasionally and speak what's on my mind. I started to date girls for longer than just one date. I started seeing one girl consistently for about 3 months from about April to July. During that time she has never said anything negative to me. She was excited to see me every time we met, didn't want the date to end and asked when she was going to see me again after every date. Unfortunately she had to move away to another state to get a job but this ended on good terms.

Because of nofap every time I go on a date with a woman I'm always myself and I enjoy her company as a person rather than a potential sex partner. I didn't have a constant need to see them and talk to them every day like I used to with my exs, and this has definitely helped in strengthening the relationship with women because they miss me when I'm not around them, since I'm always energetic around them.

And of course my dating life couldn't have been successful if my career wasn't doing well. People at work love me because my head is always clear and I can remember everything (within reason) and I answer everyone's questions and help people where ever possible, and whatever job my boss gives me I get it done straight away. Another reason why I'm popular with coworkers is because I can fix computers whenever they're broken, due to my mind being clear, I sort out the logic a lot better. Also, because of the positive energy that I'm giving off, almost all my customers are happy with me (other than the occasional customer who was having a bad day) and if they weren't they were soon transformed by my positive attitude.

Hobby wise I've just completed 2 months of Cross fit. I never could have imagined myself doing intense training like that but since I have so much energy i had to use it up somehow. I'm now fitter than I ever was and people can tell that I'm athletic just from my physical appearance.

I started to be able to control other so called "addictions" in my life. I started to cut out junk food such as soft drinks, candies/lollies, ice cream, donuts, sweet biscuits, fries/chips, and basically anything sweet other than fruit. I started to control my sleep patterns so I go to sleep at 9pm and wake up at 5am every day so I'm full of energy every day.

I hope writing this will inspire the newbies to commit to nofap and stick to it. Good luck and leave your hands off your penis !!

 

thanks guys I'm glad someone finds it useful

 

Hi Cornelius. Yes you are right. I know it's hard for newbies to believe, but it is actually not very hard once you get over 90 days.

 

thanks ancient

 

Hey bud. I'm not sure if I have communicated this clearly, but let me try and explain myself.
I only felt less "needy" after a certain amount of time on Nofap. This is because fapping is basically a "having sex with yourself" addiction. Once you get over the addiction, you don't need to have sex full stop.
Good luck.

 

Lol Charismahn that's funny. Thanks bro.

 

Shadow Boxer, I totally understand. It was actually only with a bit of luck that got me over the line. There was one instance about 70/80 days in when I was very very close to wanting to fap. Someone knocked on the door just as I was about to start and I was awoken from my trance. Unfortunately before you hit 90 days, you will feel the difficulty on and off. I would say initial 30 is most difficult, then it gets easier, but then you will feel the urge hit at random points after 60 days. No matter what, don't touch your penis.

 

Smiah I'm sure you can do it. If I can do it, you can too. Good luck buddy. Keep interacting with women in real life, no matter how much they reject you, it's still better than being "accepted" by fake women in video clips.

 

Adjoint, we are very similar, I grew up in a pious family too, and a lot of things you mentioned I pretty much had a similar experience. The key is to understand that porn gives you an imaginary view of women that is not real. You need to go out and experience interacting with them, see what they really look/sound/behave like, and get used to being rejected and accept what you can achieve with them in real life, and then slowly build up from there. Good luck buddy.