NoFap hasn't cured my PE and I feel like I've run out of options

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by stronautsa, Apr 23, 2019.

  1. stronautsa

    stronautsa Fapstronaut

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    Hi Community,

    My first post here. This is more a post about PE as regards to ED which I feel is much less common but just as severe. It's basically a reaching out to any people with a similar problem to mine and any advice people have, that would be much appreciated.

    My NoFap journey started around 4 months ago, I decided i'd try anything to attempt and cure my PE which I feel is the sole cause of my anxiety and the missing piece for me in being that normal person i've always wanted to be. Somewhat dramatic but true. It was my first time trying it and I didn't relapse once, tried medium mode (so no porn/ masturbation but still slept with a few girls along the journey). Those who are familiar with it know all to well the embarassment, the worry, the way it holds you back from trying certain things, seeing certain people and trying new experiences, even for me to the stage of turning down sex with a pretty woman because I was confident I couldn't satisfy her sexually.

    What has led me to this post today and reaching out was I surpassed the 90 days easily, the so-called curing phase and had read some very promising posts on this here forum about NoFap curing their PE, this was naturally the aim, but it didn't work out that way. The past week my ex girlfriend was back in town (she's somewhat familiar with my PE and a really nice person, we also ended on good terms). The whole Easter break we had sex roughly 2/3 times a day and the longest I lasted was about 4 minutes, even with the breathing techniques I'd been practicing and some breaks the sensation was too much and I couldn't hold out any longer. As nice as she was about it its still very emasculating and led to the whole experience being so much less enjoyable. This has since stuck in my mind.

    On the back of this, i'm extremely disheartened so i'm asking for people suffering from similar to please let me know what worked for them. I have also experimented with edging and kegels before NoFap. I genuinely feel like I have run out of options and would do anything to cure it. Thanks for reading and any suggestions once again would be very much appreciated. Also feel free to ask any questions!

    Hope you're also having a great day otherwise! :)
    Sa
     
  2. bluered

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    I put up the same question some days ago.. No one replied. I suspect PE is a less common problem when compared to ED..
    meanwhile, I hope this wd be different.
     
  3. Coolyorky

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    I got ED too. I started NoFap last year and did over 100 days then slipped a little. Currently on 16 days.

    I’ve been having regular sex (once or twice a week) and been using viagr. I think the NoFap is definitely helping and the viagr gives me a boost. Il carry on until I no longer need the V. A few mornings Ive had sex and the V will have worn off. So essentially has regular sex. I’m getting used to proper sex and intimacy as opposed to fake HD women on a screen.

    If you’re still looking at images and edging you’re not really doing NoFap. Be strict with yourself brothers.

    Stay the course and I promise one day something will click!! It’ll work
     
  4. stronautsa

    stronautsa Fapstronaut

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    Hi Coolyorky, i'm still on my NoFap journey and I stated in the thread that I tried those methods before beginning (e.g. not now as it interferes with the rules of NoFap) and they didn't work, thanks for your input though, what i'm gonna take from it is to keep on going as there are other benefits in my life, keep it up too mate!
     
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  5. stronautsa

    stronautsa Fapstronaut

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    Oh wow, sad to hear that and it doesn't bode well for this I guess, how similar was the question to mine?
     
  6. bluered

    bluered Fapstronaut

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    basically PE is my problem. I've just completed one month hard mode.. Really wondering if NoFap will help.me cure something that have been caused by over 10 years masturbation.
     
  7. stronautsa

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    Hi bluered, from all the research i've done into it, the suggestion is that even in the most severe cases of ED and PE, if you reach the 120 day mark then all the damage caused over the years should be reverted, and there are many cases of this, however as with our problem I have only seen this mainly with ED unfortunately. There are a few posts (on here and elsewhere) saying the same occurs for PE so it is definitely worth a try and the benefits in general life i've found with more time/ energy are great, as well as willpower. A month is great progress! So keep it up, I would like to know that it worked for someone at least :)
     
  8. karls

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    Hi

    I have the same problem like you. ED cured, PE definitely not :( Hoping someone here can help us out.

    Kind regards
     
  9. Nick:3

    Nick:3 Fapstronaut

    I used to have PE, I also tried deep breathing which worked a bit. Also doing kegal exercises helped (you've probs tried that). The next best thing is to stop sex early, play with her, then go back to it. Also maybe clear your head of this PE thing, if you're thinking about it, or thinking in general it's more likely to happen.

    Take you're time during sex as well, when a lot of guys watched P before, they would often rush to avoid getting caught, so try the opposite and take your time a lot, foreplay, then even go a bit slow sometimes during sex, even just leave it in whilst not moving it (just make out during this).

    Hope this helps
     
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  10. pervertedstingray

    pervertedstingray New Fapstronaut

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    Can post links yet, but search Ido portal squat challenge. Sitting in a deep squat helps the muscles in your groin area to relax.
    Also search "squatting solves it all pegym"

    Also being aware of the body and relaxing the stomach, anus and genitals. Body scan meditation can be helpful with that.
     
    Last edited: Apr 25, 2019
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  11. GaryMayor

    GaryMayor Fapstronaut

    Such problems can have a variety of reasons. Usually some psychological issues. I think you should visit an sexuologist and discuss the situation.
     
  12. The Wrestler

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    Go deeper on the anxiety - what's at the centre of it? Why is premature ejaculation making you anxious?
     
  13. stronautsa

    stronautsa Fapstronaut

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    Hi 'The Wrestler', without going too deep, I used to suffer form strong social anxiety (strong enough that i wouldn't want to leave the house, and many times didn't for fear of an adverse social interaction), however my problems with PE were after this so have always assumed they were unrelated, when I picture the situation and finishing early, not much comes close in terms of embarassment and feeling unsatisfactory if i'm to be honest. Don't know what you can take from that lol
     
  14. stronautsa

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    Thanks very much for the suggestion! I have heard of hindi squats before but never got around to trying them, I will start trying this and let you know how it goes :) haven't a clue how I can tell if its working or not while on nofap...
     
  15. The Wrestler

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    Well, the biggest sex organ is the brain. When it comes to getting down, what kind of thoughts are you having? What is getting in the way?
     

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