Nofap as a way to cum quicker

You seem like a lucky one though!

 

I think if you dig through older posts youll find a lot of similar situations. Im going through a similar thing. Rebooting may or may not help, it can become a bigger issue if you take it too seriously and may require some therapy. Probably best to do a reboot and get in the mentality its not a big issue, and just have fun with the girl whether or not you can finish

 

Off the top of my head dont have recommendations, ive googled it and found some recommendations of activities couples can try to get over it.

Also reading an ebook called "the most personal addiction" really falls in line with my thinking and its a free book you can download from the webpage (google the name).

Personally Im just working on my confidence by hitting the gym, cutting back on drugs and booze, and being a little more self focused on enjoying my experiences everywhere in life.

 

You have what's called delayed ejaculation search that term and you will find tons of posts on it and you may also have death grip. What that means is you have conditioned yourself to only reach orgasm in one way with porn and with your hand. So that is what your body is looking for. You can O but only alone and with porn. You may not death grip your penis but you are almost certainly gripping it harder than a woman ever could (as an experiment ask her to grip your arm with all her might and I bet you will hardly feel it.) A vagina and a mouth don't feel like that. You may also be doing it very quickly at a pace that can't be replicated with sex and some guys even touch a certain spot to O. My ex had this bad, and what you are saying about how she feels is true. We feel unattractive and like it's our fault. DE is a relationship killer even worse than PE. And despite all the other dudes telling you it's awesome you last so long trust me to most women no it's not. We don't want porn sex we have things to do with our lives, and after awhile it just plain hurts. The good news is you can fix this and you are so young it will take less time and you can have a normal sex life for a long time. First stop all PMO completely do not touch yourself at all, other than to clean and use the bathroom. Do not edge do not squeeze leave it be, during sex too do not use your hand. Have your only outlet for orgasm be her. Have sex with her until she's satisfied Then stop whether you have oed or not and try again another day. Eventually you will O with her and it will not take a long time trust me. The porn also is a stimulus that no real live woman can ever provide you. So when your body gets that real live woman it is not turned on like it should be. Being unable to O is an arousal disorder, so basically you are turned on, but not enough to reach an O, because you need something more to turn you on. I know this is going to be difficult and I know you don't like it, but it will work its what you need to do, good luck. Give yourself at least 90 days PMO free to see if this helps.

 

Part of it can be anxiety particularly if you have had the problem once you fear it happened again but i think its more the DE as I described below, search that, DE and death grip.

 

Porn has desensitized your brain and your hand has desensitized your penis. Stop them both now cause it only gets worse the longer you keep it up. You'll probably get some improvement within a few weeks but it can take months to get past craving the quick easy fix you get from porn and your hand. It's worth it to rebuild the connection with your girlfriend for sex instead though.

 

Its a common thing. Nofap will solve it. Avoid all stimulation by yourself, forget phone sex. you have developed a death grip.

 

Try more foreplay beforehand and switch up the positions a little, don't just go missionary. Don't forget to spank that JB ass

 

Have sex but don't come. Learn to do more foreplay and enjoy her body. This can last for half and hour or an hour. Just enjoy the feelings and movement. Its good for recovery not to ejaculate. Forcing it makes your recovery slower.

It's better to not have a HJ or BJ. A bit of hand job is okay but you need to train her not to grip it too hard. Too much is not good for recovery. If you have a boner then no need for a hand job at all.

Phone sex is really bad but because you don't have PIED it might be okay. I would stop that to be honest and read relationship books instead to keep the chemistry going.

It seems to me you don't have PIED so it's a good time to stop watching porn and masturbating. You're in a lucky situation at the moment. It's time to stop porn or you might end up with PIED in the next couple of years

 

I was wondering when someone was going to catch that.