No PMO, No Alcohol

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by Watcoo, Dec 7, 2018.

  1. Watcoo

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    Day 10 no PMO
    Day 5 no Alcohol

    3 weeks ago I had previously gone 8 days no PMO., relapsed for 2 weeks...now 10 days

    Nice solid daily morning erections. Super hard and full

    I had previously gone 137 days no alcohol this past spring then drank from August until this past Sunday.

    Sleep is already better.

    I ALSO do keto diet
     
  2. Diamond Cutter

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    The first thing i noticed when I stopped drinking was that there was such a thing as saturday and sunday mornings (no hangovers). Wow! then my first problem was to figure out what to do with all that new and free time. Imagine. Free time?!? I learned quickly about all sorts of new cool activities and it was strange how money started showing up in my pockets Monday mornings after I stopped going out to bars and parties. Keep it up. You will not regret stopping. My life got immeasurably better when I quit drinking. Its been 12 years now at least.... I gave up counting long ago.
     
  3. Watcoo

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    Yeah.
    If i could just get a 6 pack of my regular double IPA and drink only 1 or 2 every once in a while i would be fine with that but it can't...i end up drinking the whole 6 pack.

    Its brutal cause I like IPA better than porn or masturbating
     
  4. Watcoo

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    Ughhh
    Its Friday

    I want one so bad!

    Ive eaten no carbs today
     
  5. Watcoo

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    Saturday Morning
    Today is day 11nf
    Woke at 2AM with super rock hard erections before going to bathroom.
    Then woke at 6AM with another huge erection!
    No alcohol day 6...sleeping great. Had awesome dreams last night.
    Im really proud of myself. I only live1 mile from the grocery store...which has a huge craft beer section.
    It was Friday night and I was tempted but fought it off!

    Lost 5.5 pounds this week
     
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  6. Watcoo

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    Btw. The most difficult part of all of this? Ive lived in a sexless marraige for 10 years.
    Doing this no PMO and being dry is easy compared to that.
     
  7. Elias Smith

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    I understand ALL of this. Control what you can. Giving up alcohol is a great start. Going nofap a great next step. Once you start feeling good about yourself, you can think about your marriage .I don't know the answer to that one, but I wish you success in the first 2 endeavors
     
  8. Watcoo

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    Yeah. Thanks.
    In many ways I married the wrong woman 26 years ago.
    Yes. 26 years. About 15 of them in marriage counseling off and on.
    It got really bad once she started gaing weight...30 pounds later it was impossible for me to perform.
    We used to have sex 7 days a week when first married(not exaggerating)...
     
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  9. Semaphore

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    @Watcoo im sorry to hear about your sexless marriage
    if its any conciliation my OH had a very early menopause and at age 40 she went right off sex and left me hanging.Thats when my escort addiction kicked in so im glad you didn't go that way!
    I hope you can find a way to reconnect to your mrs. I know how hard it is to be at sea when it comes to negotiating how to engage with a partner you live with who will push one day and pull the next. I have that confusion. it drives me mad and challenges my efforts to work against my addiction.
    My advice is try to separate your feelings for your partner from your desires to act out and deal with each independently.
     
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  10. Watcoo

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    Semephore

    Thanks. Unfortunately I've been in an affair since January, which actually just ended (for the 5th time) with a woman 16 years younger than me.
    Let's just say she is amazingly beautiful and physically we were a perfect match.
    But, an affair is a mess and wrong and...
    It just has made things even worse because I've never been with such a beautiful, feminine woman ever.
    So on top of everything else I ended that.
    I'm therefore giving up a lot at once.
    Im really depressed and lonely yet feel empowered more than ever because I'm making great choices.
    I figure pain now but only positive stuff ahead of me.
    I don't have any close friends in my town to hang out with and dont have a support network...so here I am on an internet forum.
    Thanks for your heartfelt comments
     
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  11. Watcoo

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    Need to continue to add to my "sandwich" i e. My life and who I am
    To make matters worse I am a person who has bi-polar2.
    Within that i have a rare sympton in my manic state which is called hypersexuality. You can look it up but basically is a clinical diagnosis used by mental healthcare professionals for extremely frequent or suddenly increased libido. ...
    Im off the charts horny when Im in this mode. Basically I'm in this mode 24/7. Except when Im working or excersing or sleeping.
    Even then my mind is wandering and if I have a beautiful female co worker or see a woman at the grocery store or in public my mind goes astray.
    I easily can masturbate before work, come home at lunch and masturbate and then again before bed.
    Today my wife got me angry twice and I realized I subconsciously kicked into "if I masturbate it will make me feel better and get rid of my hurt feeling"
    But Im not going to do it.
    Im staying the course. Came here to Express it and now will go practice (I'm a musician)
     
  12. Watcoo

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    Home alone today. Sundays im always home alone. Wife works on Sundays You can put 2 and 2 together.
    This is my 2nd Sunday no pmo!
    Day is not done...but I feel strong
     
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  13. Watcoo

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    Well screwed up and drank 5 beers
    Feel like shit. Bad headache..but NoFap/pmo....
    Just getting back on my feet and not looking back.
    New day today
    I had 6 days no beer.
    Back on the Wagon
     
    Last edited: Dec 10, 2018
  14. Watcoo

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    I really would love to have someone(s) on this board I could private message back and forth here, or email with each other.
    Preferably someone like me married 26 years, 55 years old, Im a musician, teacher, biker, keto diet/intermittent fasting.
     
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  15. Watcoo

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    I just feel so hopeless. Like I will never has sex again with a woman
    I am depressed.
     
  16. Watcoo

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    Rough day at work. Came home for lunch and was actually on computer.
    NoFap pmo baby!

    Feel great.
    Afternoon at work was horrific..
    Ughhhhh

    But i have no inclination...

    Im also on hour 46 of 48 hour water fast
     
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  17. Difficult 2 Stop

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    I have some things in common with you and need to do the same thing you are trying to do. I will message you.

    Here's my latest thread on this site: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...-and-reminders-to-myself.206230/#post-1802676
     
  18. Watcoo

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    Just drank lemon water for dinner.
    Thinking of continuing fast because I dont feel hungry and I'm calm and focused.
    Looked at computer...thought about it. Wife is gone...
    But I dont have any urge
    Im tired.
    If there was an IPA in the house I dont think I would even drink it.
    Ive had tons of water today
    Black coffee x 4
    No porn No masturbation 13 days..this is day 14!
    No sex with my wife for day #...hah year #8...10?...i cant even remember!
     
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  19. Watcoo

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    Broke fast tonight with Turkey Bone Broth
    Then a tuna, celery, sea salt, olive oil mayo, salad
     
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  20. Watcoo

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    I have absolutely no sex drive or cravings right now. Is this normal begining 3rd week of nofap?
    No cravings for alcohol.
    I broke off my extra marital affair last Wednesday as well. Changed my mind
    For minute...then realized it was right thing to do.....she is done as well
    ...so its over this time for sure...i can feel it. We have broken and gotten back together 5 times.
    I think this the real deal this time. Super depressed but feel im doing right thing so within span of two weeks
    1. Nofap, no PMO
    2. No alcohol
    3. Broke off affair
    4. Just finished 72 hour fast
    Positives
    Super focused and calm, rise in self esteem and confidence. Lost 10 pounds in last 12 days
    Negatives
    Sick, tired. Depressed , lonely, ...not looking forward to going back to sexless marraige
     
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