No PM only intimacy with my gf

Having sex in a healthy relationship is okay during a reboot. In fact, it is a healthy step towards repairing your relationship. It is one of the goals we try to achieve during our reboot.

There are a few reasons why some people might want to avoid sex during a reboot. A person who has porn flashbacks, who is not mentally present when having sex with their wives, who want their porn fantasies to come to life in the bedroom, or who objectifies their wives might want to take a break while rebooting. A person who gets an intense chaser effect and wants to look at porn soon after sex might also need a break. A couple who have very strained relations because of the trauma of discovery might want to take a break. A person who feels the need to have sex every night or multiple times a day needs their mind to return to a normal calm state of mind so they would need a break from sex for a while. Single people who's addiction included one night stands, sexting, massage parlors, escorts, etc. also needs a break from all sexual contact because their previous sexual activities were part of the problem.

 

This is what im gunning for as well. I talked about it in my journal.

We want to watch terry crews's videos to gain some insight. I know he did a 90 day no sex or anything else.

While i dont believe its critical for me to abstain from sex with the wife during my reboot phase, id be willing to do it, just to give my brain a reset. Shes open to it as well. We dont know if we want to start from the last time we had sex(last week) or if we should have sex and then start. I told her she can decide.

 

No problem man. One of the really good things abt this site is that its a community. We can relate to eachother. We dont need to feel alone. We give eachother hope.

Im at 2 weeks right now with no PM. Youre not far behind. Stay strong.