1. Welcome to NoFap! We have disabled new forum accounts from being registered for the time being. In the meantime, you can join our weekly accountability groups.
    Dismiss Notice

No outlet for energy

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by 1Daat_2014, Apr 6, 2014.

  1. 1Daat_2014

    1Daat_2014 New Fapstronaut

    4
    1
    3
    I created an account about a month ago. I had lofty goals and of course they came crashing down. My original goal was to see how long I could go without fapping. On my first attempt I went around a week and a half without fapping. I must admit I could tell the difference. The biggest thing being I felt my energy levels increasing.
    After a week and half I was doing good no desire to fap. Then ideas started entering my head. I thought to myself how long can I really do this? How long can I go without getting off?
    I have no outlet for my “energy.” Sure I work out, I always have. I also have many hobbies, but hobbies and activities can not satisfy all a person's needs.
    I'm not married and I don't have a girlfriend. In fact I've never been in a relationship. So yeah I've never had sex either. At my age (34 years old) if it hasn't happened by now it will most likely never happen.
    When I stay busy at work or with various side projects at home and my mind is focused at the task at hand and I don't think about how abnormal I am, but when I'm not busy and my mind starts to wander it hits me.
    I'm sure people will say get a hooker. Won't do it, not because I think it is wrong or anything like that. I just want the person I'm with to actually want me. Weird right.
    Then there is the porn thing. I'm a guy so I've look at it before, but since I made a conscience effort not to look at it I've had no desire to look at the stuff. Then again I've never really had a problem with porn.
    I've said it before in my first post that I just want to see how long I can go without fapping. Just a way to test my self control. I just need to accept the fact that I'll never be with anyone. Quit having fapping fantasies and accept my life for what it is.
     
  2. MelancholyWeightlifter

    MelancholyWeightlifter Distinguished Fapstronaut

    829
    45
    28
  3. urgefighting

    urgefighting New Fapstronaut

    4
    0
    1
    I don't believe this to be true at all. I think everybody has the potential to make an intimate connection with other people.
     
  4. -Eaten-

    -Eaten- Fapstronaut

    26
    1
    3
    A few things:
    1-You said you went a week and a half without fap, have cut porn but have fapping fantasies. That's normal. A week ain't gonna fix your brain. Your body has to detox, i think i read on here 2-3 months to be reboot your brain and be clean. By then the fapping fantasies should be gone, right now you're just going through withdrawal. Stay strong.

    2-You said that because you're 34 and haven't been in a relationship, had sex, etc. it's probably never going to happen. If you have the defeated attitude before you're defeated, then yeah it's probably not going to happen for you. Don't give up hope, stay positive. It's the 21st century, there are tons of dating sites and ways to reach out for the opposite sex. I never thought i'd get a girl in the small town i lived in...ended up married (later divorced). After getting divorced i thought it would never happen again...wound up dating a girl for 6 months (best sex i ever had). It's been over a year since she and i broke up. I could get depressed and think i'm going to die alone but that's just a guarantee that i will. Science says (sorry i don't have any proof at the moment) that in a state of despair your body puts out a "stink" of depression that deters mates. So, my advice would be to change your outlook, become positive, and don't concede yourself to defeat.

    3-"Energy". Like #1, you're going through withdrawal. You have to find a way to divert your mind and once the withdrawal process ends the "energy" will go down.
     
  5. Go to a gym and start working out. You will be healthier. You will feel better. You will be happier. You will have better posture. You will be more confident. You will look better naked.... and it will get rid of that bottled up energy.
     
  6. 1Daat_2014

    1Daat_2014 New Fapstronaut

    4
    1
    3
    I would like to thank everyone for their kind words and advice. The responses to my original post have given me hope. Once again thank you all.
     
  7. Mark

    Mark Distinguished Fapstronaut

    1,247
    94
    48

Share This Page