No one ever takes me seriously

You have some big issues here...

 

First question that pops into my mind by only reading your title:

Do you take yourself seriously?

I recently got a tip from a good fellow here: read No More Mr. Nice Guy!

You seem to have similar problems when I read your post. Fix them and people will love you for who you are!

You’re worth living my brother!!!

 

you need to get your self seriously ,and then you will get up

 

HANG AROUND PEOPLE WHO LIKE YOU JUST AS YOU ARE , DITCH PEOPLE WHO DONT ,

 

From the social situations you're describing, I'm guessing you're in your mid-to-late teens, so I'll try to keep that in mind for whatever advice I give here.

Your situation isn't uncommon. If you scroll the boards here at nofap you will find plenty of people your age describing similar circumstances and feelings. You're in good company.

Being liked and being accepted are desires every human being at any age has. However, at your time of life theres a LOT more pressure to conform, and be part of the group, which is paradoxical because you're just beginning to discover your individuality.

And knowing this fact really doesn't take away the sting of people looking sideways at you or ignoring you or being shut out when you're trying to make new friends and explore new things. It certainly does hurt.

However although you can't control how other people treat you, you can control how you treat them. And if people treat you poorly, you don't have to spend time with them. Thats it. This also goes for those people who seem like friends, but like to use you as an occasional group pinata. They're not your friends.

People who are your friends won't look down on you, and they don't care if you stammer or are socially awkward. They treat you as an equal. This is true at every age of life.

The major thing you can do for yourself is something you're already doing here, which is posting and reflecting on your problems. Going inward and observing yourself in a non-judgemental way is something not many people take time to do, so you're already a bit ahead. By doing this consistently you may come to a better understanding of your situation and how you can act towards it.

 

Well said

 

Sorry for my English. I really mean what I wrote. Tried to express a question: do you think that pmo is your most burning or most urgent or greatest problem?

 

Tell them all to fuck themselves and be yourself. Be the first to treat you seriously. There is room in the world for serious people. Trying to please people -- they hate you, so might as well take the risk and be yourself.

 

I'm glad to hear. It sounds like you found a way to quiet your mind and just let yourself be with people. That can be an attractive quality.

Be patient with the P stuff. You've made some great strides, but keep in mind it doesn't go away so easily. It may not be on your mind today, but the urge can appear out of nowhere. Knowing how to deal with that when the time comes, what you're going to use for your inspiration to pull through is key. Just know you're worth it and I believe in you.

 

Sounds strange. Somehow they don't like you being serious, but they also don't want you to be a clown.
You say you are naturally a serious person, so I suggest you try to make that work; you are obviously distressed by playing a role in an attempt to amuse people.
So what exactly do you mean with serious? Do you talk with conviction? Do you scoff at lame jokes? Are you defensive? Do you only talk about facts?

There are situations where people expect seriousness, and there are situations where people expect entertainment. Compare a surgeon with a rock star.

I also want to add that it sounds like your friends don't like you and don't respect you. Especially in groups of young people there could suddenly be gossip which would lead the exclusion of one of the group members. It is very important to know what is really going on. The job of toxic people is to convince giants that they are dwarfs.

But it could also be that you expect too much. Society is garbage, and young men who have not acquired value (in the eyes of society) yet would often get treated like idiots. It's not ok, but it's not personal.

 

Interesting we are same age and i also last year went on a 150+ streak. I haven’t reached 60 since then. You said you think you’ve cracked the code? Can you explain how you did that, cuz i’m still trying to crack the code. I don’t have any interest in porn, because it’s just horrible idea, but masturbation? How you get past that

 

Hey man, I read your post and thought that it was a familiar situation for me when I was younger. Well, it is not completely that no one took me seriously back then, but frequently I talked to people and they asked me in the middle of the conversation, what I am talking about?
They even had a habit to say to people each time someone says something silly, they say it sounds like me.

So what I did to solve this situation?
Well, I practised a lot in talking to people.
I did not make myself to be funny in situations which did not interest me but when there was a situation where I was interested I involved and say something, even if I had the risk that some people will consider it silly.
You see? You don't need to apologize for who you are. Eventually when you try to say different things on different situations, you beging to understand what is considered socially acceptable.
Another thing is, when you see that something you say is amusing other people and they react favourably to your jokes or your comments, you can remember this moment and use this kind of comment in future situations.
I'm sure you had at least once a comment that made other people laugh!

Good luck my friend!

 

<3 thanks for sharing