No girlfriend, I need advices

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by ea1432, Jan 7, 2018.

  1. ea1432

    ea1432 Fapstronaut

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    Hello guys,

    is complicated for me but i want some advices from you about my actual situation, i've almost 20yo and i never had girlfriend (never kissed, never sex, never hold hands...)

    I currently try to use apps like tinder or okcupid but no one like my profil and no one respond to me... i don't understand why, my profil pictures is good, i think im not ugly and i have just a question in my mind : why me ?

    Arround me, everyone have a girlfriend or a sexfriend but me i've just no one, sometimes (rarely) i have date with girl than i met outisde but nothing more, for me is just terrible to life that since my 16yo.

    I don't know what i need to do for get girlfrend, I just crying every night during i watching tv.

    Thanks for read me, i needed to write here
     
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  2. Dave6

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    I understand your situation... for me it was and it is almost the same, and the few times I reached a moment to have finally sex it was a disaster. I know how bad it is to be virgin and how harder it is to try no to masturbate... a nightmare
     
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  3. Dave6

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    Maybe you say this, just beacuse you're not virgin... you can0t say to a boy that being virgin has nothing to do with being man, and if you tell it to a girl then you can forget about the chance of having sex
     
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  4. ea1432

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    I can speak with women, i'm fun with them and im not needy but finally they don't want to do more with me (im just nice). i follow seduction channel like RSD and try to approach more girls but that don't change anything, many reject me. i'm feel like i've no control.
     
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  5. Dave6

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    different points of wiev I guess... for me viriginity is like an handicap, and the more the time passes the more is difficult. I know what you mena with the word "man" but I think that a boy "needs" to know he's able to do "men things"
     
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  6. Spitfirewho

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    Hello there. I understand this completely, only I am 12 years older. At 32 I have not even been on a date or had sex and despite 10 years of online dating I have had little success. I have only just begun farming out for real help in this area and with work I can change my current situation. I will say this, you are still young and have lots of time. I spent too much time worrying and fearing life, don't do this. Try and live your life, school, job and friends. Force yourself out of your comfort zone and if able find subtle ways to ask your friends or friends girlfriends if they know any single lady friends. Online dating sucks and is soul sucking, rejection is part of the game but with online dating it is almost all rejection. This may seem like vanilla advice but trust me, had I forced myself out of my comfort zone more when I was 20 I would have had more success. Don't flinch, force yourself to live the life you deserve.
    Thanks and peace.
     
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  7. Runtilmylegsdropoff

    Runtilmylegsdropoff Fapstronaut

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    Don't pray for a girlfriend, pray for bigger shoulders to handle that feel.
     
  8. Runtilmylegsdropoff

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    Unless you are a total Chad, you won't have the best luck in online dating.
     
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  9. ea1432

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    Be virgin until 18 it's like normal but after is really complicated because you feel yourself like in late compare to other peoples and this situation become a real nightmare. so yes it's a handicap.

    In my home don't anybody understand me, my friends tell me "it will happen with time". my parents life only with their drugs... so i've juste my better friends and internet to speak.
     
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  10. Dave6

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    I feel almost the same.... :( :( I understand you, at all
     
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  11. ea1432

    ea1432 Fapstronaut

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    Is not the solution, for get out this bad feeling i need to find someone, that's the only way...
     
  12. Runtilmylegsdropoff

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    Dude, you gotta be content in yourself and fulfilled with your own life first. Don't make a woman the center of your life. That ironically will make you more attractive to a gal when you've got your own things going on.
     
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  13. Runtilmylegsdropoff

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    Okay so when I was your age, I felt just as desperate so what I did was I went after THOTs. I don't recommend this though.
     
  14. ea1432

    ea1432 Fapstronaut

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    I'm totaly agree but without girl is hard to make project of life and improve myself because finally i have always the problem come back and come back again.

    Like quotes say : behind every great man there's a woman... so imo without woman we're nothing.
     
  15. Runtilmylegsdropoff

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    Yeah, but that doesnt mean those great men made the woman the center of their world.
     
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  16. Vulkan

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    I suffered basically the same as Spitfirewho - unkissed virgin 32yo. It all drived me so mad that I couldn´t stand it anymore and went to hookers. My first times having "sex" were so bad (could not even get hard and they didn´t even want to give me a little kiss) that I almost wanted to kill myself.

    I did not give up and finally got a bit of love from a hooker. She is really cute and kissing her is like heaven while she gazes into my eyes for hours and I could feel like a real man fucking her good. We talked about travelling and found out we are both into biking (both of us up to 150km a day) and agreed to have a tour together. Will meet her soon again.

    Well, ea1432 you are much younger - you do not have to panic now. You have enough time to get rid of porn and find love. When you/we get rid of that, I believe everything will work out, for example we will have time and energy for interesting hobbys and we just have to follow our nose to be finally happy.
     
  17. King farrier

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    Dont need one trust me i had none, once u find urself know where ur heading, u will be d one accepting deir proposal, bt 1st accept urself and be successful
     
  18. ea1432

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    Personally I prefer to panic now and resolve my problem the most quickly possible, i can't hold on more years, no one can life correctly without human relationship. Im fed up to live this situation, in my life all things/activities i do are lonely.

    I want to travel but i've no girlfriend for come with me, I want to go at restaurant/cinema but I am always alone... that is the same problem everyday !
     
  19. Vulkan

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    Well, I believe many people just do not care that much as we do or feel such pain, many are "happy singles" forever.
    So yeah, you are right you should not wait forever, get the porn issue fixed asap so you don´t waste all your youth.
    But don´t panic and get even more mad/sad about it - just tell yourself you definitely do fix the porn issue now. With a clear head and that you look forward to many happy years.

    Maybe you can find her online, may be a chance to search in travel forums or maybe special dating sites for such adventures? Yeah it´s not easy for us, we didn´t learn to flirt from young age. So we have to try and try on, till we finally find someone to love.
    Try different approaches and then you may feel from experience what works for you. For example try a bus tour to another country.
     
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  20. lordram17

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    ea1432, I am just like you. I am around the same age which is 22 and a single virgin. Till last year I used think very much like you. Somehow I always had this mentality that finding a girl would solve all my problems in life. Finding a girl would give me purpose and help me become successful.

    But what I have realized over time is that you need to be complete in yourself to be able to attract someone else. Thinking that finding a girl would solve all your problems in life is quite immature but I dont really blame you because you are sexually frustrated like I was. But what you need to realize is that the reason you are alone is because you are afraid of being alone and that fear gives off a desperation vibe.

    As someone else very correctly pointed out, dont make a woman the focus. Doing that is the most sure way of not getting a woman because that will make you VERY desperate. Think about your hobbies, passion and try to focus on building a skill. That is what will really count in life. Getting appreciated for your work will make you extremely confident and you will be able to attract women with ease.

    If you do not have any hobbies or passion that you want to work on, and you want a quick way to attract women, go work out. Going to the gym and building a good body is long and painful but it develops discipline and your health. So do that atleast.
     
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