No GF, all the girls I know have boyfriends/married

21 y/o M here, just relapsed after a 7 day streak, feeling lots of brain fog, depression, and frustration. I feel like I'm not living my life purpose and doing what I'm meant to do because I'm fearful of what other people think. I overthink too much and it's wasting so much time and energy that if I were to put toward successful activity I would be super successful, but I'm not. That is the harsh reality of my life. I'm a virgin and I would like a GF that is also one, but most girls either reject me or have boyfriends. The ones that are interested are sexually active with other guys. I feel so sad that I can't even pull a chick because social anxiety and lack of game. I feel like a total loser and lost in life. I can't even commit to my career because I'm PMO'ing and have to get to the root cause. I believe I know the answer but I'm scared to admit it because it's something I've never done before. I want to go 90+ days no PMO to reboot.

 

Thanks bro that makes me feel a little better knowing other guys go through it too. I read an article on google that talks about species where females have more than one male partner tend to mate with the male who has a higher sperm count. Being free from PMO will increase my levels naturally, I will find my purpose in life, face my fears of being seen, and succeed at the highest level. I cannot say that I have a "ride or die" chick, but on the bright side I can rest assured knowing no woman can make me nor break me.

 

I suppose I can implement that method into my life as well, but seeing as you have achieve 300+ days of Nofap is just tantalizing for me right now as I don't know if I can achieve that goal. It seems so far away from me but I know if I fight the urges in the short term (first few weeks) I can overcome my addiction and make my life beautiful like it was when I was a kid.

 

You're right man, PMO has led me to this way of thinking and not consciously catching myself doing this. I need to stop looking at what others are doing and focus on my own stuff. I appreciate the truth even though at this state of mind I feel pretty beta inside and out, but I know I will become the true alpha version of myself and regain my identity.

 

Honestly thank you bro I really appreciate it knowing the people on here actually understand what its like and I can express myself. I think I'll write down a chart of my fears and insecurities, and another of what life will be like when I do change.