New to NoFap and concerned. Help!

Do things on your terms and what feels comfortable to you. If your girl loves you, she should support you all the way, especially if you've been together a while. As long as she's not a gossiper and will tell a bunch of people, (like she'd hold that over your head if she was pissed at you). Check out the website, YBOP, (Your Brain On Porn), tons of different opinions and outlooks about what a "reboot" means. It's very individual. Myself, I'm 44 and have been PMOing for years. I'd jerk off just fantasizing, not realizing the damage I was doing until I was with a chick. Then, it was like, What the fuck is going on here? Scared the fuck outta me, not to mention the complete embarrassment over the situation. Just awful. You're gonna be ok, but you need to stop ALL synthetic stimulation because that's how your brain became wired in the first place. If your dick still works with your girl, I think that's fine and you're building a positive neural pathway from your brain to your dick. You're gonna be just fine, Brother. Hope that helped a little.

 

I would say to tell the truth. Be honest about it. I'm actually in the same position as you (just 1 extra month down the path). I just started dating a new girl and I could barely get it up. I failed to have sex more than I succeeded with her. I also experienced flatline symptoms (unable to get/maintain a proper erection) about 1.5 weeks after quitting porn. I told her everything and she has been really supportive. She said she is happy to wait until it's fixed, even when I told her it could take 9+ months.

 

I have only had sex with her twice so far, and it was really hard for me to get and maintain an erection both times.

The weird thing is, that when I used to watch porn, I could easily get and maintain a rock hard erection with girls in my bed. Even if a girl just touched me while next to me in my bed I would get a erection so strong it was often painful.

But ever since I decided to quit porn, it's been basically impossible to get/maintain proper erections. I quit watching porn from the first day of August this year. It's now been 2 months, and while there has been some improvement, it's not much so far. I still can't get a 100% erection without a lot of physical stimulation. But I have read a few stories where it's taken guys much longer than 2 months to recover properly - so I must be patient.

It's so strange that quitting porn makes erections worse. I hope this is only a temporary thing as I have read from other stories. In either case, I can't go back to porn, I don't want that lifestyle of isolation. I'm so over it. I'm sick of it. Real women are so much better it's not even comparable.

 

Yes I have. I was able to have sex last week - finally! After nearly 4 months. I only lasted 10 mins, about 1/2 the time I normally last. But it was pretty intense and was able to make my gf O really hard. But I'm still not 100%, but it's definitely WAY better. Improvements are slow, but I'm grateful. About 2 weeks after I quit porn, I couldn't get proper erections at all. It was one of the most brutal things I have ever experienced (mentally speaking).