New Member Needing Advice

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by kcuftihs, Feb 11, 2019.

  1. kcuftihs

    kcuftihs Fapstronaut

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    I don't have a problem with porn. I'm almost 40 days in and I've had no urge to look at porn. In my fapping days I would only watch a minimal amount, and I've never watched anything other than straight-forward man and woman sex. However, my urge to ejaculate is tremendous. I am single and not interested in meeting girls for the next few months because I am insanely busy and moving soon, but I do want a release. My question for an experienced fapstronaut is do I even need NoFap right now? Or at all? I do admit that I used to fap way more often than I ever liked to, but I never considered it a problem that I need to address (more of a waste of time that I could have spent doing other things). I feel that if I do it once maybe twice a week (no porn) then it'll be harmless, even beneficial. I am incredibly stressed out for the next few months because I'm working full time as a high school teacher and wrapping up my final semester of graduate school on a dual master's track. Please let me know if you think that fapping (no porn) once or twice a week simply for stress relief is harmful or not. Thank you.
     
  2. Mordobarn

    Mordobarn Fapstronaut

    For a non-addict, the medical consensus, which this site supports, is that occasional non-excessive masturbation, without porn or p-subs, is fine.

    So, it depends on why you started NoFap. Do you have ED, PE or DE? Do you have any sexual problems? The answer will determine what to do next.
     
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  3. kcuftihs

    kcuftihs Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for your reply. I started NoFap to hopefully help with my depersonalization, so I'm still trying to figure out if it's helping. I have experienced DE but I attributed that to simply masturbating too much and not giving myself time to build up a sexual urge. The only times I'd experience DE are when I would masturbate the same day as sex with a girl, so I think it's a short-term issue. I think that if I build a new habit of restricting the frequency (and especially duration) of masturbation, then I won't experience DE.
     
  4. Mordobarn

    Mordobarn Fapstronaut

    That sounds fair. I would avoid any masturbation during times with a sexual partner — why would you do that?

    For your depersonalization, I hope that you're seeing a doctor for this.
     
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  5. ReclaimedLife

    ReclaimedLife Fapstronaut

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    You really don't seem to be affected mate. I would masturbate if you don't have any sexual difficulties.
    I personally would probably still do the challenge, just because it is so fucking difficult to accomplish.

    But honestly you seem pretty healthy, sexually. Most people on here actually have a lot of problems due to porn, starting from PIED, DE, PE and just overall a wrong perception for intimacy and being able to form a connection.

    I also don't get this. Even without having a girl i am fine without masturbation, but with a girl? I think my brain wouldn't even consider it..
     
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  6. kcuftihs

    kcuftihs Fapstronaut

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    Most doctors are clueless about depersonalization, which is one of the main reasons why it's such a frustrating condition. I did see a psychiatrist, which is how I learned the name of the condition, and she recommended some strategies to improve it.
     
  7. kcuftihs

    kcuftihs Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for your reply. I have been on the fence about it for a week or so now, but I have decided to keep going with it. Maybe I do have a problem with masturbation, and only more time away from it will truly tell. There's no reason to lose progress just because I think it might not be helping anything. I set a goal to go 116 days hard mode and I'm going to continue toward that goal simply because I set it.
     
  8. Mordobarn

    Mordobarn Fapstronaut

    It is a poorly-understood phenomenon. No one understands it. But some experts have at least some working knowledge, and can help. The trick is finding an expert who knows what they're talking about.

    I hope that your strategies work. Good luck.
     

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