NEW HERE PLEASE HELP ME

Welcome to the community. Read, learn and start making your plan. Don't be afraid to ask questions. You can do this.

 

Remember why you are doing, what you are working on becoming. Also you need things to keep your mind busy and focused on other things.

 

Welcome to our community. Just take things one day at a time. Try building tiny goals at first and celebrate each success. You just need to find a new thing to turn your attention to other activities like sports, a new hobby, or making new friends (like us here) to keep you occupied and keep your mind off porn. It also helps to read the success stories forums to find inspiration.

Find an accountability partner so you can support each other. Good luck on your journey!

 

Hello and welcome to the community.

 

Welcome to NoFap @coolsumit10! I know what you mean about anger and frustration when you don't give in to the desire to PMO, but here's a little something that might help. Imagine you just drove into a pile of muck and the only way to get out is to get out of the car and walk through the muck. You can't stay in the car (an example of PMO) because the car is sinking, but you must go through the muck. The muck is an example of all the dirty things you feel when you don't PMO such as anger, frustration, depression, seclusion, etc. It won't be long, though, before you're out of the muck and on dry ground (free from PMO).
I had to reset this morning because of MO'ing yesterday, but I've learned from my mistake and will still keep on.

 

welcome ^^

 

Watch this, it will help you a lot

https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/watch-this-if-youre-struggling.232140/

 

You're surely welcome. Yes, feel free to call on me anytime you need help. I might not be able to respond immediately, but I will respond.

 

Just checking on you. You doing OK ?

One day at a time is how we all succeed.

 

Each and every day, at least once, and definitely more often if you feel urges and temptations, remind yourself WHY you are here. Remember your goals, objectives and "why's". When you lose sight of your goals, objectives, and "why's" motivation will weaken and resets and relapses often follow. Don't forget why you are here. There are lots of ways to remind yourself: write down your goals, then re-read them several times a day, put a picture of your SO as the screen background on your electronic devices, put a picture of your SO on your work area, lots of ways to remind yourself - try several - and use what works for you.

Also, think about what you will do when you face triggers and urges. How will you get past the urge ? Often, being alone is a problem when you face urges. If that happens to you, go somewhere you can be with people. A cafe, the library , the park, the grocery market, anywhere there are others. PMO is isolating and the interaction with other people will help you to avoid resets and relapses. Develop a plan to fight urges that you can use whenever you are tempted. Waiting until you face an urge to think about how you will deal with it is too late; the urge will almost always win. Have a plan now - with several approaches - since sometimes you just can't use one of the ways (for example, its not always possible to go take a cold shower !)

Be well and stay strong.

One day at a time is how we all succeed.